My Poor Co-Worker

[Sarojini]

Today I was supposed to go to a bridal shower for my co-worker, whose wedding was planned for next month. So, I took all of my meds and got the crockpot (from one of her registries) wrapped and in the car... and drove over to the place where the shower was being held. I was late, because I had to stop to pee several times on the drive over (it is about 30 minutes driving time, but I'm sort of flare-y lately).

When I got there I expected to see lots of cars since I was running late, but there were only two parked outside. I thought it was weird and re-checked the directions to make sure I had the right house -- I did. So I shrugged and took the present up to the door and rang the bell.

The ladies hosting it graciously let me in and then said they had bad news, and that the shower was cancelled. They'd been trying to call everyone but hadn't gotten through the whole list... so they were just inviting those in who did show up anyway for a piece of cake anyway. Well, I thought maybe the bride-to-be was sick or something, so I said, "That's really too bad. Can I leave this gift here for her? You gals will probably see her before I will..."

And they said, "No, you don't understand... the whole thing is cancelled...there is no wedding anymore either. Do you have a receipt for that?"

I was so shocked... I feel so bad for my co-worker... I don't know anything about what happened but apparently it was called off last night at around 10pm. It's just horrible, since I know she'd made all kinds of plans, gotten the dress, etc - after all, the wedding was NEXT MONTH. :(

So, I guess hubby and I have a new crock pot, but I feel bad about it :(

[Bessie]

How awful. I know she has got to be devastated.

I guess it is better to go through the pain now then to get married and then it not work out.....but still....poor thing. You know that has to be so painful and humiliating. It is bad enough to break up but one month before the wedding, and then she is going to have to go through telling everyone. She is going to really need her friends and family to help her through this.

[SharonA]

Jen...That is so sad. I imagine she will be very embarrassed when she goes back to work. Gosh...I cannot begin to imagine the hurt she must be feeling. Even if it was her decision to call the wedding off. :shake:

[Sarojini]

I know... the girls at the house (some of her best buddies) said she might not even be GOING to work on Monday because she's so devastated, humiliated, and hurt. :(

I wish there was something I could do, because she is one of the co-workers I have that has comforted me when something has been wrong in my life.

However, I don't want to call or email just yet -- if it were me, I would think the wound was too fresh, and I would want a day alone without anyone pestering me. I don't think she wants to talk about it right now, so I am just going to wait a while and then just offer her a hug.