venting and need advice. HELP!!!!!!

[Dixiefireball]

yesterday my sister in law tonya came up here all drug up she was already told until you get help to stay away from here no trespassing! well she came up here cussing her mom and wanted tyler. Joyce and tyler has moved in with us to get away from her. when she found out tyler wasn't here she started raising tee total heck cussing up a storm and treating me and her mom i went out and told her i told you once i'm telling you the last time to get off my land well she was wanting to fight me (she couldnt even stand up) trust me i wanted to beat the tee total crap out of her but that would be like me jumping on a retarded kid you just can't do that. cussing i called the law 911 person heared her cussing and treating me when they pulled off i tried to get the tag number of the car but couldnt because they got all of here like a bat out of you know where. the drug dealer who bring her up here has no drivers lis. and i don't think he would have brung her up here if he knew this was going to happen he heared me tell the 911 person he is a drug dealer and his car was full of drugs and he was driveing with no lis. they took a report and said i could get a restaining order against her monday now i have to cancel my son's appt for test tomorrow in greenville to take care of this gggggrrrrrr cussing she still has legal custory of tyler but she got a letter from a judge to be in court on the 25th for tyler being out of school so much (SHE DIDN'T GO) so we are to call the judge tomorrow what the law told us yesterday and tell them what is going on for them to hope fully put her in jail. we want her in jail to hopefully dry out. she isn't the same person anymore. she is going around telling people we deal drugs HELLO i have never sold a drug in my like i have to take all my medicine! i'm no fool! I just don't know what to do. I even had to call my cell phone company and have my aswering mechince cut off because of her calling so much cussing everyone out in a way i wish i hadnt where the judge could have listen to it. but she was getting on my nerves so badly. i was getting better from my uti and my flare had stopped now i'm starting to flare again because of this stress. we are hoping she will hit rock bottom enough she would go get help. because now she is going to have no place to live. I couldnt go with them today to get the rest of joyce stuff and tylers because of me filling out this report yesterday and i'm going to inforce it! i'm just hopeing she didn't burn down there house or mess up there stuff last night. she has no way of calling but to go to a neighbors house and they will not call my house number because its long dis. but my cell phone number isn't i thought about changeing that number but the school and doctor office has that number in case they need to get in touch with us and we are not home. what a mess this is i just want peace! i could have told joyce and tyler they couldnt come up here but there lifes are in danger there. I had to help them. any advice i really need it! frown

[dyno]

Rhonda,
Sounds like a huge mess. I am sending you a hug and reminding you to take care of you. grouphug kissing

[Iris]

Oh Rhonda, what a huge mess, and unfortunately you and your family are in the middle of everything. Please take care of you, you have been through a lot right now yourself, you definitely do not need all the stress. Take care, and lots of prayers, hopefully to help you through this time, love and hugs Iris. hi kissing angel grouphug

[ICNJess]

(((((((((Rhonda))))))))

I really feel for you and this mess that your family is going through. Talk about stress, huh? I do have a question to ask, and I'm sorry if it may seem insensitive, and please do not get angry, but you have been telling us about how much Brandon is hurting and how much he is going through, and I feel so awful for him, he is too young for all this crap. My question is, can't someone else take care of Tyler's problem? Your son's health should be first and foremost, and I know you feel this way, can't your MIL or hubby go take care of Tyler's problem and you take Brandon to his appt.?

What a mess, I hope things get better soon. grouphug kissing

Hugs and love,
Jess angel

[ICNDonna]

It's a tough question. One thing you might consider is to be sure that everyone in your house knows that they need to call 911 if she shows up --- and since you needed help already, the police would have the record. That way you could get the restraining order on Tuesday and take Brandon to his appointment tomorrow. It wouldn't hurt to call the police department and tell them about needing to take your child to his doctor and ask them about some advice. They may be able to send a patrol past your home fairly frequently if they know there's a problem.

Sending encouraging hugs and prayers,
Donna

[Dixiefireball]

I called the greenville hosp and they changed Brandon's test to tomorrow evening at 4:30 pm so that will give us time to do everything we need to and still have his test done.
I didn't know if they could change anything on a sunday but i took the chance and called anyway and they did this for me.

[ICNDonna]

I'm so glad they could reschedule. I know you're going through tough times. I hope your day goes smoothly tomorrow.

kissing
Donna

[Dixiefireball]

Greenville called me this morning and said they had to change Brandon's appt to tomorrow Tues at 9 am they ended up over booked and asked if that would be okay so in the morning i'm off to take the children to school includeing tyler we have custory(sp?) of him threw dss and the school now. its been one heck of a day I will finish telling you about it later when i don't have nosey people around me and looking in to see what i'm typeing ggggrrrrrrrrr. banghead cussing

[ICNDonna]

Rhonda --- Thank you so much for keeping us up to date. I know this has been a horrific time for you and my prayer is that you and your family will be okay now. You are a true angel for taking another child to care for. And tomorrow will say an extra prayer for Brandon.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[khouse]

Rhonda,
Well a little bit of good news, what a welcome change. I know you are so relieved. Now we all have to start praying for Brandon. Maybe this has started a roll of good luck. Thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Please keep us posted and hang in there.
Hugs,
Kim

[Iris]

Hi Rhonda, so glad that things are going a little better for you, and thanks for keeping us up to date, hope things in general keep getting better. Take care and let us know how Brandon is doing. Hugs and my thoughts are with you, Iris. hi grouphug

[Dixiefireball]

Brandon had his test today after four hours but they still treated him great! :D we want no nothing more about the test until the doctor see the test and calls us to tell us what they found i will let ya'll know when we find out something thanks everyone here in my ic family for your support and careing thoughts
Oh and as far as my inlaws goes everything has gotten better but they ALL are living with us now we did get custory (sp?) of tyler and tonya is getting help now i took her to the er tonight and she starts rehab in the morning. :D we are so proud she is finally getting help.

[ICNJess]

Hi Rhonda,

I am glad Tonya is finally able to get help. :) Please know that we are all pulling for Brandon. Hang in there!!! :)

Hugs and love,
Jess

[YankeeCandle224]

Wow,

Rhonda, you really are a trooper and an angel to help your inlaws like you are and to try and live your own life as well.

Please take care of yourself as well....I say this all the time but dont always follow it myself, but here goes. You HAVE to take care of yourself before you can care for others that depend on you, no matter what...you said you were starting to flare because of the stress, so think of you, you, you for a while, you deserve a break!

Even if its just locking yourself in your room with a book or a movie, try and find some peace and down time for yourself.

I hope everything works out ok, and I'll be reading to see how things are.

Take care, and good luck. Love, Sandy

[felineperson3]

Rhonda,
Glad to hear your situation is improving. Remember--The sun always shines after the rain--it's just that sometimes the rain lasts longer than we want. :(
Take care and may God continue to bless you with solutions and a feeling of peace. angel
grouphug kissing

[Iris]

Hi Rhonda, glad to read your message, and to see that your sister in law is going to get the help she needs. Please keep us posted about Brandon. Please, please, take care of yourself, you are such a giving and caring person. Let us know how you are doing, and God bless you, for all you are doing for your family. Hugs for a special lady, Iris. grouphug grouphug

[Dixiefireball]

we are still waiting to hear about the test from brandon i have spent the last two days between three hosp. first brandon taking for his test and we all praying for the best! second when we got home i took tonya to the er in my town for them to ask me why i brung her there and not mental health made me mad because mental health was not open and i was trying to get her some help then today i took her to mental health for them to tell me they couldnt get her a bed anywhere but she did need to be in the hosp ggggrrrrrrr so we took her to the spartanburg hosp. we got there at 3 pm today but she was admitted THANK THE DEAR LORD! they found cocaine in her system gggggrrrrrrr i don't want crap like that at my home and its not going to be either and i mean that! i have enough problems without a drug addit a thief and a lier and tonya is all of those in one. cussing they said she will be in the hosp for at least thirty days but this time she asked for help so they want release her! ha ha. its about time :D now maybe we can rest in peace for a while all we need to know now is that my baby is okay. we are still waiting on those test hopefully shortly we will have it.
Oh on top of everything else when i got my check today it wasnt for the right amount i had to stay on the phone with ssd for an hour to find out what was going on and guess what they made a mistake and they have to fix it but i have to go to the ss office tomorrow to make sure they are fixing it. can you believe the goverment amented to making a mistake and they wouldnt had if i hadnt made copys of everything so a word of advice if you are trying for ssi or ssd or if you have it already always keep copys of the letters they send you because if you don't it can come back on you i copy everything and plus but them on a personal file on my computer desktop and on a floppy for back up so please do this or this may happen to you they shorted me almost 400.00 my ssd check was 56.00 short and my ssi check i didn't get and they cut off my medicaid over there mistake so they have to pay me back time. and i need the money now i have bills to pay but i bet i will have to wait at least 30 days to get it and i'm wondering how i'm going to pay my car payment and house payment until i get this money plus car inc. to many bills and never enough money and there mistake is going to cost me late fees also gggggrrrrrrr. when it rains it pours i had a little sunshine today when they put tonya in the hosp. now for the sun to shine all the way threw. Oh please keep praying lord is listening i know he is he just not answering yet i know there is a reason and i know this is to make me stonger but its hurting my family bad too. I couldnt even get my son his year book that i promise him hopefully they will have ex at the end of the school year i'm going to have to call because this is his last year in elm school and he deserve one. i can't believe they want 40.00 for an elm. school year book. cussing
thanks for listening to me fuss some more.
I love all of you and thank you so much for your advice and help and for those of you who has called me lately thank you from the bottom of my heart and i'm sorry kim i wasnt home when you called but thank you so much for calling hope to be here next time hon.
and those of you who did call and i got to talk to thank you for careing to call also. you don't know how much you all are my angels helping me out just by calling me and talking to me to help with the stress in my life. angel

[Jessica in Arkansas]

Rhonda,

My gosh all hell did break lose, but things will turn around soon, what you give out comes back ten fold so you have some blessings on their way.
I hope they can help your poor Brandon, I pray for his recovery and that the pain he experiences will go away. I also pray the same for you!
Be careful with your addicted friend, love her and support her but also be very weary of the sometimes criminal things they can do, May God keep a watchful eye over you and your family. Keep your family safe and keep that distance that you need for the safty of your family. I hope all turns out well with her de-tox.
Keep your chin up and smile cause ther ain't nobody out there that knows better than you that "It Gets Better". Believe with all your soul!
Much love and concern for you and your family.
Gigantic hugs for you all!
JessicainArkansas

[Dixiefireball]

jess she isnt my friend she is my inlaw as in sister in law there is no way i would have a friend i would hang around with like she is and what she does. :( i just hope that the de tox center helps her help me pray

[Jessica in Arkansas]

Rhonda,

From what I can tell of you I believe that you would not get yourself into situations that would be illadvisable to your immediate family or yourself, sometimes it does not seem fare (the family we do not get to choose i.e. the inlaws!!)
I like the saying "Friends are the family we choose". I have had to rely on a lot of people I would have never imagined since my family moved here from Utah 4 years ago, we have friends that treat us like family, there is nothing better than the real thing, but our adopt- a -family has been so gracious with us.
There is hope in people even in this day and age of mess and destructiveness!
I hope only the best for you!
Much love,
Jessica