Traumatized!!

[anniepie1976]

Hi, I have such severe problems with the Vulvodynia right now and of course IC (pregnancy made me worse and 14 months after baby still not the same!) that sex is pretty much impossible. My husband and I made decision to try alternative ways of being intimate with each other and honestly I think thr pain that has caused problems with sex has effected my libido and doing anything sexual. I get really anxious when we start kissing or fooling around (shaky, can't concentrate). I seriously thing that I have been traumatized and wonder if there is anyone else out the that has been through similar. Am I crazy? I used to have such a high sex drive. It is gone! And kissing or touching doesn't hurt! Are sex therapists helpful for this type of thing? Any advice? ~Ann

[Moonheart]

I can totally relate. I'm very fortunate (in a bizarre sad way) that my husband had a spinal cord injury and has less libido than I do, and can't perform in that way. So we figure we are the perfect mates for each other.

However, until he figured out he really didn't want to pursue it, I used to avoid any kind of intimacy because I was sure it was going to lead to things that would be painful. Even alternatives. So I've actually been pretty relieved since we came to that agreement.