Tired of everything....

[Sunflower2]

I am just tired of dealing with IC/PFD. I miss old me before IC. I became very anti-social person after I got an IC. I am always afraid of going any public places without restrooms. I am even afraid of going to friends house because I have to go to bathroom so often. I couldn't join in a converstation.
I tried not to be taken my life by IC. It's just so hard. I have this horrible flare from sex lasting over 2 weeks. On top of that, I have a cold, which gives me a headache. My head is spining right now. Well, this weekend, my husband's parents, and my hubby and I went to a BBQ festival. We saw so many families with kids. and My inlaws told us that they wanted to see a grandkid before my SIL has one. My SIL got engaged to a great guy recently,and planning a wedding in March. She seems so happy and all she wants to do is to have a family. My hubby and I have been married almost 4 years in this March. We talked about having a kid. But I am so nervous about this issue. How can I possibly have a kid when we rarely have sex???? My inlaws don't know about my health problem that detail. I cannot imagine going through pregnancy with IC. I just don't care anymore. I feel so tired. I cannot sleep at night. I am in pain and my hubby snores so badly. I cannot get a sleep that I need.

[ICNDonna]

Please talk to your doctor about how you are feeling. It sounds very much like clinical depression could be an issue with you and you need some help.

Sending encouraging hugs,
Donna

[ABliske]

I'm sorry to hear that things have been so hard for you. I just make it to work and don't go out much other than that. It's been very tough for me too. I've been married a year and not being able to have sex without pain is unbelievably difficult. I also have a mother-in-law who always talk about grandkids. She even has a room with a crib left up from her 2 grandkids who are 4 and 6!! I used to want kids very badly, but the IC has changed that. I only want to get pregnant if my symptoms get under control.
OH, my husband snores too! Ha ha Between that, getting up to pee, and having bursitis in my shoulder sleep can be challenging.
Well, hope you get over your cold quickly. I've been hoping I don't get sick this winter. That, on top of everything, would be bad. Good luck. Hope you spirits are up soon. Take pleasure in the small things.

[Sunflower2]

Thanks for your advice. I know that I need to have more faith in God. I know there is some reason for this suffering. It's just so hard to get by every day, especially with this pain. To tell the truth, I do want to have kids. I am just scared of how I can get through this IC and pregnancy.

[Kimchi]

(((((AYA))))) PLease hang in there. It does sound like you are so very depressed. Is your husband supportive of you? A lot of had children w/ IC. There are so many ways around it. Talk to your Dr. You never know, a baby just might be what the Dr ordered to help you feel better and take your mind of the IC! My child is a blessing!

[kuntrygurl78]

I cant imagine having a snoring hubby. Sleeping is hard enuf without that:bunny: . You may have him go to the doctor to get tested for sleep apnea. Just a thought.

One of the things I did when I found out I had IC was be up front and honest about the problem with my friends. They are so great when we go shopping and I constantly have to go to the bathroom. They just duck into the next store while I run to the loo. I mentioned to one of my friends that I know people who have friends that arent as understanding as mine are. I told her that some people dont believe that people have pain just because they cant see it. She couldnt believe that people would be so insensitive. She said that you cant see cancer but that doesnt mean people dont have it. She was so right!

Find yourself some wonderful friends and be honest and open with them. Dont let IC run your life, but understand that it is a part of who you are, and thats ok.

Feel free to PM me if you need anything!