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blackcat25
08-11-2006, 09:58 AM
Hi all,
I feel a bit guilty for posting this but I'm really struggling. I am 13 weeks pregnant with my first child. The whole thing has been a bit of a miracle thanks to PCOS, previous miscarriage earlier this year and a threatened misscarriage at 7 weeks this time round, and I am very thankful to have got this far. I have damage to my sacral nerve which means that my bladder is essentially dead and my urethra contracts uncontrollably. Before the pregnancy I was managing with ISC combined with oxybutynin, valium and tramadol as needed, as well as Xatral as a smooth muscle relaxant, and cipramil for depression/anxiety.
Since I found out I was pregnant I stopped all of my meds apart from my alpha blockers, which my Uro says are not safe to stop, as they can cause rebound hypertension. Since then I have had 4 UTIs and today I was admitted to hospital and had a foley catheter fitted as I was retaining over a litre of urine because the spasms were so bad that the ISC catheters wouldn't go in and my urethra was bleeding. I've just been discharged now, and I'm really glad because the urology ward was full of really ill people and both myself and the doc decided that being kept in would do nothing to help me recover. I have to go back on Sunday to be reviewed and they will decide how to play it next.
However, now I am home, I'm really struggling. My husband is away on business so I've had to go through all this on my own, I really don't want to bother my mum with this as she has her own major issues to deal with and will only stress me out more, and I haven't told anyone else about either the pregnancy or the catheterization.I know I should be grateful to be pregnant, and I am, but at the moment I am scared and in a lot of pain.Even though the doctor told me that this will not harm the baby I still can't help worrying after past experiences.
I don't expect anyone to have any answers but I just needed to say this to someone who might understand.
Hugs to all,
Blackcat

July
08-11-2006, 10:13 AM
:grouphug:

Hope you are feeling better real soon. I will say a prayer for you and your little one. God is with you at all times, and loves you very much!

mom_in_ma
08-11-2006, 12:02 PM
I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles. I'm nearly 10 weeks pregnant and my IC has reappeard from out of the blue. I too am struggling. This pregnancy was a surprise and it's been rocky from the start. To be honest, I'm not feeling very excited about it.

ICNDonna
08-11-2006, 01:18 PM
:grouphug: I do understand.

Donna

vm
08-11-2006, 01:55 PM
I don't have answers, but I sure am thinking of you. {{HUGS**** That would be frightening going through that by yourself. :( I'm glad you came here and shared it with us - I know sometimes just getting it out and receiving kind words back can make a huge difference.

You don't sound ungrateful to be pregnant at all. Just scared. :kissing: I will say that after the baby comes you'll be so sure all the headaches were worth it.

Keep talking to us, OK? We're here for you and you sure aren't alone. {{HUGS****

blackcat25
08-13-2006, 07:37 AM
Hi Guys,
Thanks so much for all your support. I've just got back from the hospital after having the catheter taken out, and although I'm still in complete retention I can now cath myself without too much pain (with the help of large amounts of lidocaine gel). The infection seems to be clearing up as well. Everyone has reassured me that the baby will be fine, and I have my nuchal scan on Wed so, hopefully I sould be a bit more confident then, all going well.
Once again, thanks for listening,
Hugs,
Blackcat:cat:

severa marandus
07-28-2007, 01:21 PM
I hear you. It is really sad we cant get fully excited with our pregnancies because of this evil condition. I am six weeks pregnant and my bladder is making sure to tell me it is not happy at all. the urethra pain and burning is insane. I am really hoping i can stay med free but some days I am not sure. I have so much respect to moms wih this condition i swear.

Cali girl
07-28-2007, 01:44 PM
Lots of hugs and prayers for you and your little one!!:grouphug: :grouphug: :pray: :pray:

mom_in_ma
07-28-2007, 03:02 PM
:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

ICNJess
07-28-2007, 03:10 PM
Hi Blackcat,

My daughter is a PCOS miracle, as well. I've had one miscarriage and it took awhile to get pregnant, but my daughter is here and safe and healthy. Many prayers for a healthy pregnancy for you and baby.

Did you have insulin problems with your PCOS?

Julie B
07-28-2007, 06:08 PM
Hi blackcat........hang in there, girlfriend.......have you tried the lo-fric catheters that they advertise here on ICN? Many people have had some success using that.

Also, if I could suggest a yoga class for pregnant women, or a medidation tape. Not having medications can be rough, but there are some natural things that you can do that can take the edge off...and thus reduce the worry and anxiety......

XOXOXO Good luck,

Julie B

kuntrygurl78
07-28-2007, 06:48 PM
Congratulations on your pregnancy!:woohoo:

Its ok to be scared. Always feel free to let us know how you are feeling. Sometimes just banging it out on the computer can be theraputic.

Wishing you less pain and lots of happiness!:hi:

sandramac
07-29-2007, 09:47 AM
:grouphug: :grouphug: :kiss: Bless you, after 8 yeas of fiterlity with no success. I know your heartache. But am so happy for you that you are expecting. I understand your fear am am sorry you are in pain. But please tell a family member or close friend who is close by, while your hubby is away. You need the extra support . Hugs Sandra:cat: :cat: :cat:

July
07-30-2007, 09:20 AM
I'm sending you hugs! Another thing to try in addition to prenatal yoga is tai chi excercises. There is a great DVD called Tai Chi for Expecting Mothers.

I will keep you in my prayers.
July