I'm done

[talksick]

I am so frustrated I'm ready to just give up on sex all together. First of all, I recently stopped taking elavil because although it did help my bladder it made me feel like a zombie. While I was on elavil I didn't have many problems with sex but ever since I've been off it I am starting to get pain again. I feel ok when I'm not having sex but now sex is irritating again.

Also, I can't find any good birth control that doesn't irritate my bladder. I've been on ortho tri cyclen, ortho tri cyclen lo, ortho micronor and I think yasmin (although to be honest I can't remember if this was before or after getting IC). They all irritated by bladder Anyway, so last week I got a copper IUD in and had some bad pain although it seems to kind of be going away now. But I'm still worried that with my period each month the horrible pain will return. I called my doctor's office today and I am waiting for them to call back. I don't know if I should remove the IUD or not. Errrrrrrrrrrr.
If I do get it removed its back to condoms and I hate condoms. I can't feel anything and I get all dry. So I'm basically just thinking the whole time.....when is this going to be over? I'm just getting tired of trying anymore. If I have to go back to condoms and especially now that I'm off the elavil I feel like whats the point. I'm done with my stupid vagina, I'm done with my stupid bladder,.....hell I'm done with the whole lower half of my body!:cussing:
Kim

[Amanda 2006]

Kim, I haven't been able to use the pill or IUD for years. My husband & I rely entirely on condoms. BUT we have to use lubrication. Just using the condoms that come lubricated is not enough. Get yourself something like KY-jelly (KY does bother some people though) and you may see a difference. Using enough lubricant for me can mean somewhat enjoyable sex!

[traceann]

Yep, me too unfortunately have to rely on condoms alone for birth control. (I'm over 35, and would like to have kids someday soon, so I don't even want to get on them again, as when I went off of them back when I was 25, it took me a year to get my period back - I don't have that kind of time to wait to get my hormones balanced again, lol). And for me, it's the same as Amanda, tons of lubricant - hubby and I like Astroglide quite a bit. (I had a bit of irritation from the K-Y, go figure, lol) I agree also I get tired of the condrom routine - there's not a whole lot of spontaneity, but I do what I gotta do, lol.

I think we all understand how frustrating sex and IC can be, it's maddening sometimes. Maybe just give yourself a mental break and your body a physical break from it for a bit, let it get on a somewhat even keel (I am sure having the IUD inserted was bound to aggrivate the bladder, our bladders don't enjoy very many "procedures" that's for sure!). And taking the mental stress off yourself for a bit may do you some good, and allow you to come back at it fresh - and be able to figure something out pleasing to both of you - or should I say all 3 of you, lol. You, your sweetie and your bladder!! Just keep your chin up and don't give up completely, just maybe take a break, lol!!! :)

Hugs!!!!

[glassd18]

Oh can I relate. Had sex last night!! Not painful during for me, but after: ouch, ouch, ouchy!! Huge flare. No wonder we shy away!!! Who needs the extra pressure on the psychy (sp?)? How stressful!!

[talksick]

Hey guys,
Thanks for replying. I visited my doc and I'm gonna try to give the IUD some time and hopefully it will work out. If it doesn't work out I'm gonna do what you said TraceAnn. Maybe take a while and relax and approach things from a new point of view. And you guys are right I probably need to lubricate more if we end up using condoms again.
Kim:)

[glassd18]

That's living in the solution!!! Kudos to you!!! Hope all works out well for you!! Hugs and Kisses!!!

[Emma's Mommy]

hubby and i use astroglide....its way better than KY.....all the Ky stuff bothered my urethra sooo bad....

my hubby is such a great guy....he knows after we cuddle and i get up to go to the bathroom that i will need an ice pack and he will go downstairs and get one for me.....