Feeling alittle down tonight

[sleepyangel30]

I have 2 friends one is male the other is female I'm not using their real names. Well, I've been knowing jack for 6 or 7 yrs met him online a long time ago we were really close like brothers and sisters. Soon as he fell inlove with this chic he stop talking to me haven't heard from him anymore. My local friend name Anna I have known her for a couple of months we met online we used to talk all the time day and night soon as she met up with this guy she bearly talk to me anymore. It Seems like every time my friends get hooked up with someone they forget all about me and that really hurts. Yesterday Anna called me I was trying to talk to her but she kept laughing and talking to her bf I was like why in the heck did you call me if you're not going to talk to me.. I didn't tell her that I just said it to myself. Anyway, I told her I will call you back. I think it's really rude when someone call me and be talking to the others in the background other than me. When ever someone calls me and if I have company I tell them I will call them back. I just feel like saying forget it and stop talking to them you know.

[ICNJess]

I really hate when these things happen. I had "friends" like that. What I did was talk to them about the way they were acting (these were high school friends) and about how I was feeling, and when it didn't stop, our friendship just tapered away. Yeah, it hurts a lot, but in the long run, it's better. You need people around you who will be kind and reciprocate the friendship.

:grouphug: I hope things work out the way you want them to.

[Kara29]

I'm so sorry that you are hurting over this. It sounds as though they are in a sort of puppy love stage where they can't keep their hands off one another and are constantly talking even over other people. I've seen my sister in law do this with new boyfriends and it drives me absolutley crazy. She'll ask me how I am going and then start talking to him and getting all over him, right in front of me. I don't know why your friend did not have the common courtesy to say that she would call you back or to have the courtesty to realize you were on the phone for her! I understand how you feel. The other thing is: meeting people online just isn't the same as meeting people in person for the first time. You can only see what they type. And then an occasional phone call. It's hard to maintain a friendship over the computer. It takes a lot more energy. Hang in there girl, you are worth more that what was given to you over that phone call and you have every right to tell them how you feel about the way they kinda dropped you for eachother.

Kara:cat:

[ICNDonna]

I have to agree that if she placed the phone call, she should have talked with you exclusively. One thing you might do is just to say something like, "It sounds like you just got a visitor. I'll be here; you can call me back later after your company leaves." Then hang up.

That will get the message across, yet leave her the option of calling when she's less occupied.

And Kara is right. It's great to make internet friends, but meeting people in person is better.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[creatingkarma]

((((Angela)))) I'm sorry that you're feeling so depressed about this. I've seen it time & time again - when someone finds a new love they seem to forget about their friends. That was rude of her to call you & then talk to someone else the whole time. Like you didn't have anything better to do than listen to their conversation! Grrrr! And honey, you have more than 2 friends! Add me to that list!

I love the pic of the dove! Is that the same dove that you nursed back to health?

[sleepyangel30]

((((Angela)))) I'm sorry that you're feeling so depressed about this. I've seen it time & time again - when someone finds a new love they seem to forget about their friends. That was rude of her to call you & then talk to someone else the whole time. Like you didn't have anything better to do than listen to their conversation! Grrrr! And honey, you have more than 2 friends! Add me to that list!

I love the pic of the dove! Is that the same dove that you nursed back to health?


Woman that is a hummingbird hehe... so how have you been?

[sleepyangel30]

I have met Anna in person We both live in the same town. Not trying to be judgemental but her new boyfriend has no manners at all he has no respect for her either. He posted a bulletin on myspace once telling everyone about their sex life etc. I called a couple of nights ago he answered he goes we're busy "ya guys know what i mean" do you hear anna in the background ummm like I really wanted to hear that so I hung up. She met him online on myspace. She known him for a week or 2 he moved in with her & family he didn't even ask them if he could stay. A couple of weeks later she and her mom got into a big fight over him so her mom kicked them both out. A couple of weeks ago they went out to eat she goes girl he embarrassed the h"ll out of me she goes we were eatting at western sizzlins he let out a big fart he saw me laughing at him and he threw ice cream on me everyone was looking she thought it was funny I didn't.. I told her that couldn't be me I would have snapped on him and left. When I was talking to her last night he burped out loud and didn't say excuse me. he got close up to the phone so I could hear it thats so rude I asked her where is his manners. Anyway, I'm not calling her anymore I'll just let her call me because when I talk to her seems like I'm talking to myself she blocks me out when he's around.

[VickiB]

I'm sorry. It hurts to see a space widening between yourself and a friend, and it happens so often when a new relationship forms! But, good Lord, it does sound like she picked a winner with his manners & all! Maybe that relationship won't last long!

Vicki

[Trishann]

Angela,

I really like ic Donna advice. It is saying it in a kind way but yet letting her know this is not acceptable to you. Maybe she is not realizing this is being rude to you. Hope you the best.