Feeling A Little Blue...

[ICNJess]

When I was pregnant with Belle, toward the end, I couldn't wait to deliver. Then, I delivered, and I missed being pregnant. Here I am, 3 months later, not wanting another baby, but really really really missing being pregnant. Is this normal? I miss feeling her move, I miss the ultrasounds, the heartbeat, everything. I tear up when I think about it. Am I crazy??? HELP!

[ICNDonna]

No, you are not crazy! What you are feeling is completely normal.

Hugs,
Donna

[SharonA]

Nope, you're a mother...through and through. Still to this day, after 36 years, I miss having my baby in me. I loved every minute of being pregnant. It seemed like such a blessed thing to be able to do. I loved it when I could feel him stretch and then curl up, once again. At night, after I went to bed, I would hold him and rock him back in forth while he was still in me. If he was active, I would play with him...rolling him from one side of my belly to the other. I loved it when he had the hickups. Now that was fun. I loved seeing his little hands and feet stick out from inside me. I loved getting bigger and bigger while watching my baby grow. Hey, this is something wonderful I am doing here. I am growing a person. WOW!!!!! It was the most wonderful, magical time of my life.

[vm]

I felt that way, too, especially after my second. I remember walking by the room I'd ben in after I'd had him when I was at the hospital to pick up a breast pump. It made me cry! LOL

With my first I was on bedrest and had VERY frequent trips to my OB/GYN. I got to know the staff there so well b/c I went at least weekly for 3 months! I found myself really missing them after I delivered and then feeling dumb for missing them so much.

See? All "normal"! :bonk: ;)

[dancemomof2]

I did this also Jess. Boxing up the maternity clothes was the worst. I hated them but loved them also. It is a huge chapeter in your life that was the only thing you yourself can say you nurtured and got her safely.

[tigger_gal]

thats normal Jess, I think many women fee the same way.

[ICNJess]

Thanks girls...I tear up a lot lately over this. Leslie, you are right about boxing up the maternity clothes. I could not wait to get back into my jeans that didn't have the belly band, and shirts that didn't tie in the back! Now...I miss them, and I miss my belly. I was looking at my maternity pictures yesterday and I really miss that time.

Sometimes when I feel a little gas bubble roaming through my abdomen it reminds me of flutters.

Sharon--my daughter got the hiccups several times a day, and her head was in my ribcage, so the very top of my belly would move. I miss that!

Thanks for making me feel normal. I'm so envious of women who are getting pregnant and who are pregnant, but then I think about all the work they have ahead of them, with setting a schedule for baby and everything, and I'm glad to be where I'm at!

[Betsie]

Hey Jess,

Sorry I am just seeing this now! OMG - you are soooooooooo normal. I went through this as did many of my friends. Not only did I miss the physical feeling of carrying a child, but I really missed those weekly check ins. I had such a good relationship with my OB and staff. I think that is very common to mommies to be.

when we are pregnant, it is a very nutured place to be...even though it is primarily about fetal care, we are the ones that personally recieve all the concerns, etc.

I think you are entirely normal to be feeling this way, even to the point of tears. To this day (um, 20 yrs later for my baby) I still can get a ripple of gas/air in my belly and immediately put my hand there. I still remember that feeling!

I think mommies everywhere can relate to your feelings. It gets better, I promise! But all the focus is on Isabelle now... ::::sigh::::

:kissing:
Bets

[ihurttoo]

Oh yes! You are totally normal! When I was pregnant, I was throwing up every single day 5-6 times a day. I was in the hospital 7 times, (toxemia and Lupus), I gained 72 lbs, and hurt something terrible. Yet, after he was born, I STILL missed being pregnant and feeling him move, and the hiccups, ultrasounds, hearing the heartbeat, and of course my OB and the staff! Now THAT is crazy!!!! Like you, I had to see the dr several times a week for the last 3-4 months, so I grew very attached to them. It WAS very nurtering. I also felt jealous when I'd go back for my check-ups after I had him, and see the pregnant women there. It sounds silly, but that is how I felt! But, the funny thing is, they were probobly jealous of me and the other new moms, because lots of the new moms already had their figures back (Not me!!), plus they werent sick or hurting anymore, and they could kiss their babies and see them and hold them, etc. But, what you are feeling is totally normal!! I ended up seeing my dr for the IC, and the rescue instills were all that worked forever, so as it turned out, I STILL saw them 2-3 times a week for the next 4 yrs!!! Until, I got to the pain clinic in Feb, and found something besides instills that work!!! This time though, I am glad to be done!

[ICNJess]

I miss my OB staff!!! I just got a letter in the mail the other day saying that my OB was resigning from the hospital up here. It made me sad. The nurse Katie and I used to have so much fun when I was at the office. The day I found out that I was having my c-section my parents had taken me to the office that day because my husband was working and I was having an amniocentesis, and I was hooked up to those fetal monitors that monitor the heartbeat and contractions...

Well we were waiting for the results of the amnio to see if my daughter's lungs were fully developed or not. My mom had gone out to tell my dad that I was having contractions and that the results were on a rush...my mom came back in and she said that Katie had come up to her and said "WE MIGHT HAVE THE BABY TODAY!!!" and they were hugging and everything.

Anyway, when I went in for post-partum check up I looked for Katie but she wasn't there, but oddly enough ran into her afterwards at a store and we both were kinda wishy-washy. It was such a wonderful time in my life, something I will definitely cherish always.

I guess I just miss that "feeling"...you know, the special smiles you get when your belly enters a room before you...people asking you when you're due, if it's a boy or a girl, etc. I've shed my pregnancy pounds (all 50-55 of 'em thank you! LOL) but my hips have yet to go back to where they once were and I now have a jello-ish tummy. Nothing is firm anymore LOL!

Hugs,
Jess