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SandyRN
05-31-2006, 09:23 AM
I've been seriously absent from the board for about 6 weeks or so....I've done a lot of soul searching in this time, and I felt that I needed this time away from the board so that I could come on here with something good to say, and with the capacity to help others without writing constant novels about how bad my life sucks sometimes. So, I'm here now, and I think that I can make helpful contributions here without allowing myself to become sad and depressed.

I think that everyone needs a break every now and then, be it one or two days, or the dramatic month and a half that I just had. I didnt even check my email in all that time and just got done weeding through over 1000 messages.....lucky my ISP didn't cut off my account!!!

I'm having bladder problems more frequently again now, and am back to using the instills 5-6 times a week. My daughter (for those of you that remember) is getting the help she needs. Bad news, Tom has to have major surgery. He has Crohn's disease as well and after about 25 years of having the disease, his inflammation in a 36 inch stretch of his small intestine is almost completely blocked and his bowels have made their own path (a fistula) straight into his colon which makes his bathroom trips emergency trips. He wants his life back, and I want him to have his life back, but I'm TERRIFIED of such a major surgery. He's not in ill health, and it's not an emergency surgery, but I know just enough about med-surg patients to scare myself silly. The surgeon says it will definately be a big surgery and it's complicated by the fact that they're not sure how much of the large intestine is involved. When it rains it pours and sometimes I can't help but feel as if I'm being tested. :dizzy:

I worry that I won't be healthy enough myself to stand the stress, and worry, of this surgery, coupled with the fact that I'm going to be the primary caregiver when he's off work for 4-6 weeks. Ya know, living with a man can be wonderful, joyous, but not every single day in and day out for 6 weeks LOL! I've got to be healthy enough and have enough stamina to take care of him, the house, and my kids through all of this, and really need someone to tell me that I'll be ok.

I didnt come on to complain, just thought I'd let my friends out there know that I'm really ok, and whats going on in my life.

My son graduates from high school on the 12th of June and I'm quite melancholy about that too...my baby boy is no longer a baby.

If you've made it this far, thank you for reading.

I dont know if I'll be on every day, but I will do my best because I really do miss the companionship and friendship that so many of you have offered me. :angel:

Love, Sandy

Sarojini
05-31-2006, 09:34 AM
:grouphug: I do agree that we all need time away from the boards now and then, and you are welcome to take it without apology. :)

I'm so sorry to hear about Tom's condition!! That's definitely something serious and I'm hoping all will turn out well there. :grouphug:

emilyrose197377
05-31-2006, 09:57 AM
Welcome back. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

:grouphug:

July
05-31-2006, 10:33 AM
Prayers and hugs!:grouphug: God bless you, and I will keep you in my prayers for strength, healing, and peace.

dancemomof2
05-31-2006, 11:16 AM
:kiss: Welcome back no explaination needed.

SandyRN
05-31-2006, 12:26 PM
Thanks so much! Leslie, when did you change your screen name? I wasn't sure who you were there for a minute LOL!

Hugs, Sandy

sandi303
05-31-2006, 01:31 PM
Sandy, I had noticed you were absent for awhile & I wondered & worried about you & your daughter. Now you say your husband is in a bad way .... wow - you've had more than your fair share of worries this year! And I know how melancholy it is when your children graduate. I went through that twice!

I will continue to keep you in my prayers. And I wish you health & strength for the upcoming months....

vm
05-31-2006, 02:49 PM
It's so good to see you back! :) I have taken breaks, too, and they really give a fresh, new perspective. It always helps me.

tigger_gal
05-31-2006, 03:20 PM
WB glad to see you.. I agree its goo to take a break.. I did some time ago, for quite a while.. Having personal problems of my own and trying to be supportive, yet wanting to rant about your self dose not work out well..
If you ever need an ear to bend I am right here for you.

Kara29
05-31-2006, 07:27 PM
Sandy,

You and your whole family are in my heart and prayers! God Bless You All!!!:pray: :pray:

Welcome Back, I hope you stay for awhile!


HUGS :grouphug:

Kara Lynn :cat:

mary124
06-01-2006, 05:03 AM
Hugs and prayers are with you and your family. Welcome back. Wondering where you were.

SharonA
06-01-2006, 05:24 AM
Welcome home, Sandy. :hi:

I have missed you and was wondering if you were alright. I am so sorry to hear about Tom. I know you and he will make the right decisions about his health care. I am so happy to hear that your daughter is receiving help. I know that must be a relief for you.

SandyRN
06-01-2006, 05:40 AM
I just want to say thank you for making me feel so welcome again. I really do appreciate the kind words.... :) :) :) I've made it here 2 days in a row!!! lol :woohoo:

traceann
06-01-2006, 06:00 AM
Hey girlie!!! Ugh, I am so sorry to read about Tom's Crohn's being so problematic, wow. All will be good though, I have a good gut feeling things will go smoothly and well...and you'll make it through the 4-6 weeks of "all man all the time" time!!! :)

Glad to hear that kiddo is getting good help, and congrats on having a "baby" graduating - that's huge!! You did a great job raising them!!!! ;)

Love,
Tracey ;)

SandyRN
06-01-2006, 06:17 AM
Thanks Tracey...you know I've missed your goofy self the most :lmao: All man, all the time....somehow THAT sounds comforting, nice almost...but it needs to be revised to post op man, in pain man, drive me crazy because he's not feeling well man.......LOL That sounds mean, but I dont mean it that way....just dont know how I'm going to deal with him after he feels well enough to move around the house and tell me how I SHOULD be cleaning the toilet or something like that...and he'll be bored.....arrrrrrrrgh. He makes me nuts by Sunday night most weekends.

Dont get me wrong, I have compassion, and I love the guy, but men are sooooooo um, different when they dont feel well...least thats been my experience over the last 20 some odd years of having relationships with the opposite sex.

This too shall pass..... **sigh**

traceann
06-01-2006, 06:32 AM
Amen Sister!! They are interesting when they are "under the weather" to put it politely, lol. Ugh, mine just gets cranky as all get-out, good grief. Snaps at me constantly for stupid stuff too - but won't tell me he doesn't feel good/is in pain etc. Just crabs at me for things like the proper way to use a broom, lmao!!!!b "No no, you're doing it wrong! You sweep THIS way" ugh. That's usually my tip off something's amiss...

But you are correct it will be "all big baby man all the time", lol. Got any hobbies he likes to do? Something you can stock up for him so he can occupy his time? When I was recovering from my appendectomy, (they also had to take out intestine due to inflammation, and the valve between the large and small intestines) I took up cross stitch, lol. Get him a pretty pattern, some floss and needles and turn him loose and tell him to live it up!! LMAO!!!

Trust me - you will do fine, just fine. And remember you got us (and me!) to complain all you like about what a pain in the patootie he's being!!!! ;)

Love ya!
Tracey