Why me

[IcyAngel23]

My boyfriend of six years broke up with me last night. I don't know what to do with myself. He said it wasn't about Ic but everty problem stemed because of my IC. I"m so alone and depressed. He was my first love and 6 years it like a marriage. I'm scared and I just want him back but he left so should I completely write him off. The worst part is that he said he still loves me and wants to be with me. I've never been broken like I am now please help.
Kristin

[BellaTutu]

:grouphug: Kristin - I"m sorry you're going through this, I know its rough. This disease is hard on not only the patient but significant others as well. Maybe he just needs a little alone time to think about things??

I do hope you feel better and know that you are not alone in this disease, and neither is he. Maybe he can come on here and read some of the postings to get a better understanding of this disease and what we go through - to know that HE isnt alone in how he may feel either.

[traceann]

I agree with Bella, maybe he just needs a breather for bit, time to think and collect his thoughts - and realize what an amazing woman you are! ;)

I totally understand how devastating it is to have someone you love and planned a future with up and bug out. For me the hardest part was not letting him go, but letting the dreams I'd had go...

Be kind to yourself, pamper and baby yourself as much as you can. Give it some time and if you still want to take up the possibility with him, try to have a calm talk with him at some point. And if not, grieve as long as you need too, I found that to be very important - no blindly rushing to mend my broken heart, didn't work for me, unfortunately. It had to run it's own course at it's own pace...

BIG hugs to you!

[ISONormal]

Kristin,
I hope you are doing better. Sometimes after a break up it can be tough to adjust but then you'll find that new things will come your way, things you didn't expect. Give it time.

Hugs!

[Mrs. Burschman]

Icy,

I'm so sorry! He could change his mind. My aunt wanted to get married. Boyfriend had cold feet. Aunt moved 200 miles away. Boyfriend realized how much Aunt meant to him. They've been married for 10 years now and have two adorable kids. So don't give up yet!

And if he doesn't come back, just know that that doesn't mean you'll never find someone else. You might find someone even better.

IC is hard on significant others; I know that. But I think it makes us all tougher in the long run -- the whole "what doesn't kill me makes me stronger" bit. Maybe I should add that to my signature!

Anyway, I hope you feel better soon. Keep your chin up! :bunny:

Amy (Mrs. Burschman)

[IcyAngel23]

Thank you everyone for your support and comfort. I've just been off the board for a few days just to try to fix it but I realized I can't fix this. I've spent time coming to terms with this but it is a long road ahead. I'm glad I have so many people here that can relate and help me thru this. Thanks again.

[Imustpee]

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[SharonA]

I am so sorry. :kissing:

[Janie Miranda]

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[Babs RN]

Big hugs and if you need support I understand---

Hugs,
Barb :grouphug:

[IcyAngel23]

I'm not sure what the future will bring but I'm hopeful that we can work it out. He said he needs time but being home stuck in the house due to the pain gives me endless amounts of time to think. I used to enjoy the time alone all day while my mom worked but this breakup is driving me nuts. So I'm giving him time to think but he better think quickly cause I"m not going to wait forever for him to decide our fate. So thanks everyone for your hugs and kind words. Just frustrated with the waiting.

Kristin

[Inpain]

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[traceann]

Sending lots of hugs your way!!! At least he's taking the mature route and actually thinking on it!

HUGS!

[IcyAngel23]

It is amazing how much you learn about yourself when you aren't part of a couple. I've found clarity and I'm discovering me all over again. After six years together you tend to lose yourself without meaning too. Thanks everyone for your kind words, hugs and support. I really enjoy this IC family and talking to you makes me feel like I belong to something. So I'm embracing my IC and being single.
kris

[traceann]

I so understand where you are coming from! It's amazing when you start to remember what "you" were like!! It's fun too isn't it??? LOL Glad to hear you are doing well!! ;)

[sandramac]

:bow: You GO Girl ! Glad you are feeling better! hugs Sandra :grouphug:

[heidigaines]

Believe me in that I understand this one. My bf of two years (first love and living together) just decided to break up with me, 4 times over two weeks no less. Citing among many things, that he felt alone too much and made refences to not getting what he needed sexually. It's hard. He's back and says he loves me and doesn't want me out of his life but now I'm so scared of being hurt again.