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Kara29
02-28-2006, 03:52 AM
Here is a clip from an email I sent to a dear friend regarding bladder removal and not losing your beauty: Mind you all, on a daily basis I feel ugly but there was one night out of this year that I felt like a princess. I wanted to share this "great night" with you all to show you that there is still hope even in the worst of times.....


You must know that at my 10 year high school reunion this past Christmas, I felt like %$# b/c I had just finished those fertiltiy drugs but I dragged myself to go anway. Do you know, that out of my entire class which was 175 people. I won an award for being the most beautiful woman in the room that night. At 29 years old with a broken urethra and bladder neck, and running to the bathroom trying to cath myself every 20 minutes. No one knew a thing was wrong with me. I also won the award for the best dress out of the entire class. Mind you I was NOT POPULAR at all in high school. I had men coming up to me saying how absolutely stunning I was and how lucky Allen was to have such a beautiful wife. The girls were coming up to me asking where I got my dress and how I looked radient and how they wished they looked half as beautiful as I did. I tried to leave early b/c I was feeling so sick but they would not let us leave, they said I was too beautiful to leave and that they wanted me to party hard with them and have fun! I couldnt of course we told them we were just tired. I just want to let you know that even though you will have a tiny hole in your abdomen, that you can still be beautiful. No one needed to see my stomach that night and no one ever does.

I am not trying to be arrogant here. I am just letting you know that IC did not stop me that night and this was during Christmas just a few months ago. My scars went unseen and hidden but I was still the star of that show that night!

I am still sexy even though I have a tube hanging out of me. It also helps to have a husband tell me how sexy I am but my entire high school thought I was too, so you see, it didn't go away when they took out my bladder.

My scars are just evidence of how much of a fighter I am in life. They are worth somthing, not ugly. They are milestones for me. Allen kisses them and tells me how proud he is of me for going through so much. Not to mention, they are just about invisible now.

IC did not steal my Beauty!

Kara

icjen
02-28-2006, 04:32 AM
That's a beautiful story. What a great night you must have had. It helps to hear that you are a beautiful sometimes. And you are!

hollipop
02-28-2006, 04:54 AM
What a story! I'm so proud of you....

How lucky you are to be so beautiful on the outside AND the inside.

Thanks for sharing that with us...as a newbie, it really means a lot to me to hear stories like this.

ChrissySunshine
02-28-2006, 04:57 AM
That IS a beautiful story!!! How good it must have made you feel!! You certainly deserve it for all you've been through!! Try to keep that feeling even when you're down! It is good to see that IC did NOT steal your beauty!! Thanx for sharing that!

hoping4acure
02-28-2006, 05:34 AM
what a BEAUTIFUL story Kara! Thank you so much for sharing your story and giving others HOPE. You are an incredible women and quite the inspiration.
(I think) to each and everyone of us!


:grouphug:

sweetangel2080
02-28-2006, 05:57 AM
that was reallly nice to hear- msut have a nice booster when you were feeling down
It is true, most people look at us with IC and couldn't physically see anything - maybe a good thing sometimes I guess

creatingkarma
02-28-2006, 08:24 AM
That story was beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing that!

s@ssy
02-28-2006, 12:56 PM
Kara, that made my eyes tear up. Very inspiring, thank you for sharing.

sandramac
02-28-2006, 02:10 PM
Kara you truly are a birgt lite of sun ray breaking through the muddy coluds!Hugs love yeh hon ! :bow: :grouphug: :bow: Sandra

quiltz
02-28-2006, 03:03 PM
Hi Kara,

Well I know what happened .... it's simple really! For that one night, they were able to see the inner person shining through all the pain and the scars. They saw how beautiful you really are ....all the time!

Liz

marsi4
02-28-2006, 03:41 PM
You truly are an inspiration, and you certainly can be beautiful and feel beautiful regardless of a surgery. We certainly are not defined by an illness or our bladders. That is a part of us that most of us can do without. I think you are so brave and give others the courage and strength to persevere and get the most out of life. Our bladders are our weakness but we have so many other strengths and attributes which ic cannot diminish. I'm glad you stood out and got the attention that you did that night for your outer beauty, but here on the boards we know how beautiful you are externally and internally everyday. You have a wonderful husband who truly cares about you beyond the scars and surgeries.

Marsi4

Kara Isabel
03-01-2006, 01:40 AM
I think you are beautiful too!! :)

SharonA
03-01-2006, 09:56 AM
:kiss: What a wonderful experience.

Baba Yaga
03-02-2006, 01:29 PM
Kara, that made my eyes tear up. Very inspiring, thank you for sharing.
Ditto on all ^three pieces.