Diagnosed with severe kidney infection yesterday afternoon

[ibtracy]

Hi all. I'm trying so hard to keep up with my normal daily activities. I have been sick for days and went to the doctor late yesterday afternoon and had some blood work done as well as a urine test and when my doctor got the results and I told him my fever yesterday morning was 101 he was deeply concerned. He put me on 1000 mg of Cipro but I've never really responded to that with a uti so we'll see what happens I guess. I'm always in a great deal of kidney pain aside from my normal pain meds that I'm on but am trying to just deal with it. I've got flu-like symptoms as well so I'm really down for the count.

I tell ya I'm getting no help from my husband whatsoever (I know, NO SURPRISE). I get up at 6:30 A.M. to begin the morning process of taking both the girls to school, the last of which I don't drive to school until 8:30 so it makes for a long morning. Of course I can't take my pain meds until I'm done driving around as well.

I tried asking my husband both yesterday and today for help with our youngest because she's the most work. His response has been, :mad: "you're the mother, if I would of known I needed to hire a babysitter, (dirty look), I could of called one ". I asked him before he even got out of bed if he could help me out with her this morning but I guess that's not soon enough. He was gone over the weekend and I came to the realization that I can "be without him". The second he came home it was sheer torture to my nerves and instantly I felt sick in the pit of my stomach and that was after feeling calm all weekend. I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling and he was twisting everything I said around and coming to his own assumptions. He was driving me NUTS. We've been talking about divorce pretty seriously and he said a big part of him wants that as well so I guess it's not just me. It's so sad :(that he can't try to be different towards me or do something to make things work. I'm just sad. :(That also stresses me and makes me sick. I don't know how things will play out in the end I just know "something needs to happen/change". (Please don't judge me or say anything negative, I'm aware of what's going on and what should take place by now - I just need some support I guess). I've reached an all time low and very depressed and alone.

So being sick with the kidney infection, having the flu and trying to keep up being a Mom and my so-called one sided relationship with my husband - I've about reached the end my rope. :help:

Tracy K. :toilet:

[Janie Miranda]

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I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this Tracy. You are in my thoughts and prayers

[ibtracy]

Thank u for your reply. ;) I appreciate it. Can't keep up my head, going back to bed.

Love,
Tracy

[ICLori]

I'm so sorry for this rough patch you are going through - I hope so much things turn out for the best and you will be happy again someday.

Blessings,
Lori
P.S. I hope you get better soon from the infection, too!

[patricia1]

:grouphug: and :kissing: hope you feel better soon both mentally and physically.

[emilyrose197377]

I am sorry for what your going through Tracy. I too have an uti and kidney infection and know how you feel if you need to talk pm me. I hope you feel better soon.
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[ibtracy]

UTI's SUCK! I hope you feel better. I haven't had such a severe infection like this in a very long time. I'm just wiped!

~me

[emilyrose197377]

yep they do I am so sorry you have one and are so sick.

[ICNDonna]

Hmmmmm --- one thing you didn't mention is asking your older child to help get the little one ready and off to school until you are feeling a little better. You could give her rewards for being so helpful and it would make her feel proud and you would be able to get a little more rest.

I hope you feel better soon.

Donna

[Baba Yaga]

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Tracy, I'm sorry you are experiencing all of this. If I were in pain and had a fever and a diagnosis of kidney infection, I would assume that other people's expectations of me would get adjusted.

I think it's very positive that you had this little triumph recently with learning you could cath yourself, and now this weekend learning that you could feel some peacefulness alone. At the same time, I know how badly anybody wants to make their partnership work and how painful it is to contemplate finally giving up on it for good.

You will come out OK -- no matter what the future holds. Your infection will eventually pass, and you will make decisions based on what you can cope with best and what is right for your kids. I know this because even now in your posts you are remarkably lucid and you are holding together enough to still be taking care of the girls in the morning -- which is remarkable to me too.

Remember you have us no matter what is going on.

Wendy

p.s. Donna's suggestion is great. This is the right time for the oldest to step in with some assistance, and you can definitely reward her after.