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icnmgrjill
12-22-2005, 11:04 AM
Anyone who can get through the holidays without a tension headache or just general anxiety is someone I admire greatly. Consider my week, or example. Monday I was sitting pretty. My shopping was done and I'd finished all of my major holiday tasks for work and home. Tree finished. Presents wrapped. Thinking, cool, easy week for me. Right?? Wrong!

Tuesday a tooth starts to hurt. I run to the dentist where he does the "well, it's not a cavity ... it's probably cracked... let's give it a few weeks" speech. I, of course, feel somewhat crazy because, well, it really hurt when I bit on it during breakfast despite the fact that he can't find anything. So, we did a cleaning.

It's now Thursday and I've had my third trip to the dentist this week. Turns out that he accidentally pulled a filling from one wisdom tooth and discovered that another filling was missing on the opposite tooth. Decision #1 was whether to do them both at the same time.... because, well, to numb both sides would actually make it harder for me to swallow. Slept very poorly that night... bladder killing me... anxiety level sky high. I woke up ... and thought... "This is so much easier than a bladder cysto... keep it in perspective." But still my palms were sweating, my stomach in knots. We managed to do it all in two visits... thus making a grand total of 3 visits to my dentist in three days.

Gods... this is not what I wanted to happen before the christmas and I have to wonder if, yet again, this is my cosmic reminder to not take life for granted. For truly, dental work is nothing compared to having a bladder procedures. And, in terms of stress, I have nothing to complain about... particularly when ICN Kathi lost her husband this week... and my best friend Sheila... is facing her first christmas without her parents. I am so lucky... and so blessed.... and, dental work aside, I have to remember to always be grateful for what I have.

Yet... the holidays are... well... stressful. So, for everyone out there having a rough time... having disappointments, aggravations, snow, stresses and more.... I want to remind you that you are not alone! We are in this together! Breathe deep! Take time for yourself. Try not to be perfect because, perfection is just not possible. Treasure the smaller moments and laughter like, well, my father and I wasting two hours this afternoon tryiing to configure a wireless router.. only to have our ISP do it in, well, 10 seconds. ::::sigh:::

But, the best part is that my MAC works great on it... thus I can now work at home again. That said, it's the holidays and I, for one, am taking some time off to DESTRESS from the STRESS of the holidays!

I LOVE CHRISTMAS and I hope that you all have a great weekend... and for those who are struggling... always remember that you are not alone. We're here! We care!

Jill O.

If the above message is weird... blame it all on the novocaine!

Katrina
12-22-2005, 11:58 AM
:grouphug: ((((((((((Big hug))))))))))))) For all dealing with stresses during the hollidays...and for those that have a bigger burdan than most :kiss: Sending love and support...we will get through this time together. VERY WELL SAID JILL! :) Thank you for reminding us that this season is hard even for those that seem strong. :grouphug:

ICNDonna
12-22-2005, 12:07 PM
Jill, I am one who would rather have a hydrodistention than a filling! The dentist is a horrible place for me to go anytime.

I hope you're feeling better now and can relax and enjoy the weekend.

Sending gentle hugs,
Donna

dancemomof2
12-22-2005, 12:08 PM
I have to agree, nothing I hate more then the dentist. Especially that many trips.

tigger_gal
12-22-2005, 12:17 PM
count me in I hate the dentist too.. So sorry you have had such week. sending out hugs and prayers.

callie0767
12-22-2005, 02:27 PM
thanks jill for the reminder.i am so sory kathi for the loss of your husband. my tough time with ic and endo seems so insignificant now. sending prayers your way. jill as always you have such a great way to remind us of our good fortunes this time of year.happy holiday to all of you.

Dixiefireball
12-22-2005, 02:50 PM
Jill i'm sorry about you losing your filling. I know that is no fun. My prayers going out to Kathi and her family. Oh how my heart aches for Kathi and her family right now. I know what there going threw.

The holidays are always very stressful for me. Christmas always reminds me of my mothers passing due to cancer.

This Bladder is also misbehaving. I now have another IV in my arm i have to have during Christmas. I have a very serious UTI. It could be wrose I could had ended up in the hosp.
My husband is working very long hours with PIKE, the children started there Christmas break Tuesday.
STRESS STRESS STRESS. How did such a Wonderful blessing time of the year trun so upside down for so many???
I'm going to try to sweep my STRESS out the door and try to enjoy the remaining of this year and PRAY that 2006 is the beginning of a year of remission, Peace, and enjoyment for us all.
God Bless
Merry Christmas Guys. Prayers for a HAPPY NEW YEARS.
Rhonda

traceann
12-22-2005, 03:17 PM
Ew! Don't mind the Dentist per say, but the shots I can't stand!!! Gives me the shivers just thinking about it! ;)

Happy Holidays everyone!!!

Love,
Tracey :)

dyno
12-22-2005, 04:27 PM
I can relate Jill, I have clocked more hours in the dentist chair the last 2 months than I care to count and 3 more visits to go through in the next month or so. I am so tired of the dentist I could scream... the only thing is I have a great dentist and love her so much I drive an hour to get to my appts.

Hope you are doing better with your teeth and have a great Christmas.

icsonja
12-23-2005, 10:06 AM
Jill, sorry to hear you are having a rough time,I'd rather have a hydro than a dental anything (my phobia!) so you have my sympathies.
Also my thoughts and prayers for you on the loss of so many loved ones,I know words can't ease the pain you are having, only God can do that, but please know that your pain is our pain too. You have so unselfishly given of yourself to me and to most all of us here, that I feel comfortable in telling you that as your friends you can throw some of your burdens and pain on us and we will help carry you until you feel ready to carry it yourself.
So until the day "when death will be no more, neither will mourning, nor outcry, nor pain be anymore" (Rev.21) we will all just continue to work to ease each others daily stuggles, and you Jill have eased more than your share.
Rest,laugh,spend time with your loved ones, you deserve it. :angel:
Peace be with you and joy guide your path,
Sonja

poetgirl
12-23-2005, 11:03 AM
Hope you start feeling better soon, Jill! It's always something, isn't it?

I got through the remainder of my Xmas shopping this afternoon and surprisingly, the crowds weren't too onerous. However, I have a lot of wrapping left to do! :( I had graduation and a pinched nerve/disc in my neck over the past two weeks, so I am totally behind schedule.

But...I am grateful that my friends invited me and my boyfriend over for Xmas Eve dinner, since we won't have his son with us until Xmas Day afternoon, and our families are in other states. I made time this week to participate in a solstice meditation at my yoga studio, which was wonderful and very uplifting. I'm planning to go there again tomorrow morning. It's a great way to let the effects of stress go and I always feel amazingly light, open and relaxed afterwards.

Happy Holidays!

icnmgrjill
12-24-2005, 11:04 AM
It's over now. I just wanted to remind us all, myself included, to listen to your stress level and, if it gets too intense, to take a break! I'm perfectly fine and certainly don't deserve sympathy. It's just a fact of life that teeth need fillings... sucks.. but it's true!