Is it okay to post about this delicate issue?

[earthwriter]

Hello again,
I am indeed enduring a very rough difficult time right now, the worst time I've ever had to endure in my entire life, it takes a lot of trying to find the "know-how" to learn and find the means to cope with everything, just to get thru my day and week. I did start to post about my troubled estranged marriage and I will post more when I have time and a bit more energy, but I'd like to know if it's okay to post about another even more painful issue that's plagued my life for this past summer and now approaching fall/winter. It's about a difficult long-distance relationship I forged online with a male via the Internet - chat/email and sometimes phone - and it severely affected and interfered with my already troubled estranged marriage. It's a bit of a long story and VERY painful to even think about, let alone talk about, but I'm really trying to find the means to cope and heal and move past it, but I have various obstacles preventing me from doing so.

So, I'm asking if it's okay because I don't assume. I'm probably being way too hard on myself and as my husband pointed out last night, this kind of thing happens to many women a lot, it's not unusual, so I guess I'm really not that much of an alien. *nervous giggle* So, please let me know and when I can and have a bit of time, I'll start to share about that too, which will also help members here better understand the source of the pain I'm going through with all this.

Thank you for listening,
from my anguished pained heart,
Earthwriter

[Sarojini]

It is fine to post about this -- you can be as personal or as impersonal on the boards as you would like; it all depends on your comfort level and how you feel about discussing these things. We will listen without judgement here. :grouphug:

[traceann]

Oh yes, earthwriter, Jen is sooooo very right. You most certainly can post about it, provided YOU are comfortable with doing so. And yes, many times we are very hard on ourselves, and need to realize we are all human, we all make mistakes (provided we are beating ourselves up because we think it's a mistake) and to forgive ourselves.

Have you ever noticed it's easier to forgive someone else, than it is to forgive our own selves? I can manage to make myself feel sad, guilty and nauseated about things I did as a teenager, and I am 36 now!! LOL

So, if you want to post about it go right ahead, maybe someone has a perspective or similar experience that can help you out in dealing with it and maybe getting past it, providing that's what you want to do!!!! :) :) Or jsut provide our shoulders to cry on, whatever....we'll try.

We are all here for you, no worries, ok???

BIG HUGS!!!