When did you tell him/her?

[Hollydoll85]

At what point do you tell a new partner about your IC? I know it'll probably vary from person to person, but I'm interested to find out others' povs. I generally end up mentioning it in the very beginning simply because someone will want to cook for me or go out to eat and for some reason, explaining you are on a low acid diet or have dietary restrictions just isn't enough for some people. Also, how do you bring it up? How much info do you tell them?
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[ICNDonna]

I was already married when I developed IC, but I think it depends on the individual.

Donna

[traceann]

Hmmm, me too, I was already in with my hubby (not married yet at the time of dx). But shoot, I think I would be up-front about my problem, for the reasons you mentioned. I would hate for them to think I am just being "difficult" when it came to foods or bathroom availability etc. If they can deal with it, then they are possibly a keeper! If not, they can hit the road, lmao!!!!

[Katrina]

I was always right from the start kind of person. Even previous to IC diagnosis I had health problems that would be part of my life. I would share this right away with everyone. In some cases things didn't always go well....but I felt better sharing. In the beginning just explain a few things such as I have and it may cause me to . I think I may bring it up as needed...like before a meal or bathroom trip....kind of casually at first.

When things more serious I would go for the more serious talk. Explaining it what it is like to live with the illness everyday, what it all may effect in the future, a way to get more info.

Remember that everyone you teach a little bit about IC to may teach someone else and save them from a lot of suffering. So even if that first casual talk seems like more than needed...it also is part of spreading IC awareness.

I sure hope that you find the conversations in your future easier and are comfortable sharing what you want to share.

[Sarojini]

I was diagnosed after marrying my hubby... we went thru the diagnosis together. Even though I tried to hide a lot of my symptoms from a large portion of my family, I ALWAYS told him what was going on. He's been a great help.

I think that if the partner is the right one for you, he/she will be very understanding :)

[sunflower69]

I was diagnosed prior to meeting my husband. I felt it best to be honest and told him upfront. He is a loving and supportive spouse and I'm a lucky girl. He goes with me to treatments.