My boyfriend not understanding....

[ti_fanny]

Good morning and hello to all, So my boyfriend is really making :mad: because he doesn't believe in IC, he thinks it's all in my head :rolleyes: . Nothing new. Well anyways I thought I would come to the people that live the way I do and ask you guys if you could help me in telling him this is not in my head and I need my medicine. It mad me mad this morning when he said why do you have that stupid bracelet on, then he said I didn't mean stupid he said I mean why are you putting it on do you think that are alot of people coming to the house to see it. I told him I put it on because it makes me feel good. I take my bracelet off at night when I go to bed because it is very loose. When He first met me 5 years ago I was drinking ALOT and I worked at a Gentlemans Club :ignore: for about 2 years. During that time I wasn't having problems with my bladder. Yes I would always have to go to the bathroom all the time, but I didn't take any medication. Well now since I quit the Club and started staying at home and getting back on this site he thinks that this site has made me think that I need all this medicine. I have tried to tell him for 2 years I was not in the right state of mind and I would imagine that the work I was doing and all the drinking I never seemed to feel the pain.
Now that I have told my story, can you all help me help my boyfriend understand that this is real and not in my head. I have had this for 12 years it also took about 5 years for my ex husband to realize it was real. That was after he went to the doctors with me.
Any input would be great.
Thanks Tanya

[dancemomof2]

Hugs, first off men are men. Sorry to say that. My hubby was that way for a long time and a trip to the URo with me and a very lenghty appointment he finally got the point.

[emilyrose197377]

sorry you are going such a rough time with your boyfriend. loved ones often don't get because they don't have to feel with it and deal with it on a daily bases.

Take care
Kim

[Amberannie]

Boyfriends!!! Anyway my boyfriend is aware I have the problem and wants me to feel better and live a healthy life like him. I too want that but I can't. Sex has to be planned, because I take an antibotic before hand, weekends have been cancelled. Dinner and movie dates have been cancelled and now that I have started doing treatments at home he has starting acting wierd. (even though they help and we have sex life again and I can go to a movie now) I asked him if he wanted to see what I do and he left the apartment. I want him to understand. I talked to my mom who is very interested and understanding and she thinks that he just can not handle it. But I want to be able to talk to him about my treatments and problems but when I do again he acts funny. Maybe mom is right and that he is worried and does not know how to handle it. Does anyone have advice? I want to be able to talk about the way I feel freely.

[tigger_gal]

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))) my husband too told me it was in my head for a long long time...... finally he has gotten the hint its real.. but still I don't he believes that the pain is as real as I say it is......
Brat

[mayray518]

Wonder what they would say if we told them it was in their heads. I dated a guy once you got a bladder infection and you would have thought he was hit by a car. That is not to say I dont feel for the men who get IC but because it is rare in men they just toss it off as a female problem like "PMS."