husband's being a jerk

[Michelle in KC]

Ok, so WE ARE JOKING with each other, but he's being a jerk!

I was reading him some of the drugs and the amounts some people here are on (looking at the pain mgmt board post about daily narcotics) and he laughs at me, while hugging me from behind my chair, and telling me "So, what are you B******* about???" Then he tells me "It's like the doctors in KC said... It's all in your head!"

Ok, I know we are joking, but that hurt. I tried to staple his arm after he said that. Not seriously, not pressing the stapler, but tapping his arm with it.

So, he's trying to wrestle away the stapler and kissing my cheek at the same time.

Then Justin comes in and tackles him. My hubby had a riding mower roll over on him earlier this week. he's just now starting to feel human. OUCH. But Justin saw mom & Dad joking and wanted to wrestle.

I figure it served Donald right, being a jerk like that to me.

He knows how serious IC is and how much I hurt. He's the one that will tell me to go take a pill while I am hurting and he's the one that will send me to bed to rest! And then he says stupid things like THAT!!!

Grrrrrrr. Michelle in AR

[work it]

Sometimes men really need to think before they speak but there mouths get ahead of them. I bet if you told him how hurtful that was and how that made you feel I am sure you would get an "I'm sorry".

Hope things get beter.

[Kelli]

I woulda stapled him.....lol

[Cricketmk3]

I know you two were just joking, but a lot of times we convey our true feelings in a joking, hugging, kissing manner because we think we can get away with it that way. I'm with Kelli, I'd have stapled him for real...lawnmower injury or not.

[poetgirl]

I'm sure your hubby didn't mean to hurt your feelings -- he was probably trying to make light of the situation. Remember that actions speak louder than words -- he tells you to take pain pills when you're hurting and urges you to go back to bed to rest. Clearly, he doesn't really think it's all in your head. I guess he thought he'd try to inject some humor...and it fell flat. He's lucky he didn't get stapled! ;)

[trytosmile]

Men are a breed of there own and I'm still not sure what planet they are from. My boyfriend has smart ass comments all the time, he thinks they are so funny and me, I'm crying on the inside.

My other half is so insensitive about this whole IC thing, says he feels as much pain as i do, LMAO, now there is a joke of a comment. He talks all the time how this illness effects him just as much as it does me. :cussing: I believe him in that is does effect him but AS MUCH AS ME. Ok, are you on disability, do you take 9 pills a day, do you walk up not knowing how your day is going to be, do you ..... oh i could go on forever but won't go into details. I think u get the picture.

[traceann]

I swear they remind me of that pesky boy in 7th grade sometimes! LOL!!! They don't know sometimes that their "teasing" can be taken as "attacks", lmao. Just went through this with my newly-moved-in sweetie -- he thought he was being funny, but all it did was make me feel bad! I was in no mood to be "picked" at, ugh. Apparently he didn't get that, yeesh. The teasing felt more like put-downs and attacks to me. I agree I think that sometimes it's a "playful" way to air your aggrivations with your significant other, I know I do it sometimes. Maybe that's why his "teasings" stung me so bad.....hmmmmmm. Well, at least now I know I am not alone in putting up with their inner 12 year old!! LOL!! ;)

Hugs,
Tracey :)

[trytosmile]

they are all nothing but pond scum, had a terrible weekend because of him and here we go again, not home again.

Who needs them and it isn't for sex because he is about as satisifying as a piece of liver :toilet:

[Michelle in KC]

YIKES, Jen.

Sorry you feel that way.

Hugs, Michelle

[Cricketmk3]

Jen, If this guy was your husband, I'd try to give you good advice about working things out but if he's just your boyfriend...kick him to the curb!!

[trytosmile]

Marilyn...

believe me I'm very close to doing that but we have just did a complete renovation of a century farm house and up to our wazoo in debt. It is all in my name because when I was working had a great income and all this credit. I'm now on disability so affordability wise I'm screwed. Although my income decreased I still had the credit. I worked in the banking industry so my rates where next to nothing so we used my credit. With his income it is no problem, just my "new disability income" (which is alot less that what I made working) a problem. It sucks

[Cricketmk3]

I understand. Money issues are usually the reason we stay with people we don't really want to be with or people who are not the best person for us. It's not always as easy as "kicking them to the curb"! I was married for 14 years and am thankful I am a happy single mother today.