Help don't know what to do grrrr

[sleepyangel30]

I don't have privacy here at home anymore, I hate it here so much. My brother, His girlfriend, their baby and my brother 2 boys live here with me. I been staying here because of the boys "my nephews" My brother doesn't have a job neither do his girlfriend. His girlfriend is really nosey she's always in somebody bussiness. I was talking to my aunt on the phone tonight I believe she was listening to our convo. She kept picking up the phone repeating some of the stuff we were saying and laughing I didn't like that one bit. My brother do the same thing sometimes that make me so mad grrrr. The reason why we been staying here forever is because of my 2 nephews. I worry about how they would make it without us, the bills would not get paid if we weren't here. I don't mind taking care of my nephews their no problem at all. My brother and his girlfriend is the problem there is nothing wrong with them their able to work. We can't even eat in peace, every time I cook something my brother and his girl want some. Food is to freakin high we can't afford to feed everyone. Some people say they would kick them out. I rather leave, this house is so old we can't afford to fix it. Anyway, I just wanted to know if any of you were in our shoes what would you do?

[SharonA]

:angel: This sounds like a very difficult situation. It also sounds like it is causing you a lot of stress. As you know, that's not good for us. :(

You cannot take care of everyone else's needs and wants. You are not responsible for them. You need your privacy. As long as the others can depend on you to pay all the bills and provide all the food, etc. they do not have a reason to do it for themselves. I know you love your family, but sometimes it is necessary to let go and let them face the world on their own. They will never grow into the mature and responsible people God wants them to be if you take care of everything for them. Kinda like birds...momma bird pushes her babies out of the nest to make them independant of her. As long as she feeds them, they will stay in the nest with their mouths open waiting for her to provide for them. That is not the way God planned it for birds, nor for us.

:kissing:

[ICNDonna]

You might think about moving to a very small apartment --- where there wouldn't be room for company.

Donna

[jmrowley]

I'm with Donna on the apartment--- then just be there everyday for the boys.