needed support and got more depressed

[tigger_gal]

Hi all......
I been hurting a lot lately and I have irrg. bleeding thru-outh the month.. In March I had my normal period, 2 weeks alter I started bleeding agin but this time for 8 days...

I have a history of cervical cancer, and dysplasia.. Also my mom's side of the family we have had several aunts die of it.
I went in for my annual pap and My gyn was teling me he was going to watch my periods over the next 4 months and then do a uterine biopsy. I asked if that had any thing to do with my past history of dysplasia, and he said no he was talking uterine cancer.. well after that my mind kinda went numb, I could see him speaking but not hearing him... I have to go back 8/5/05..

anywho.. I called my oldest sister I was telling her what was going on and she said on no, Cindy.... Are you telling me now I have cancer?? I want to know how the h**L she thought she had cancer because I was getting a biopsie?????????????????? I asked her.. um what do you mean.. she said well I had dysplasyia, and not I aint had a period in 7 months... don't that mean I might have it too.... OMG I wanted to scream at her, here I am upset and needed comforting and support bcause the worse thing I can think of was handed to me on a plate, and, she made the conversation all about her.. and she was just at her friggging within the last 6 months.... How am I supposed to know about her darn uteris I ain't a gyn......
WHY do people just jump to the conclusion that when you say something that its all about them????? GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRR :cussing: :cussing: :headbang: :headbang:
I haven't told anyone else in my family.. not even my husband... and the one I turn to for support in my family made me feel like crap..
Brat

[diane57]

Brat, I've had the same sort of experience. When I first started telling people I had IC several of my friends responded with "Well I never have those symptoms so I'll never have IC" OR "Well I sometimes have those symptoms so maybe I have IC." HELLOOOOOO YOU ARE NOT THE TOPIC HERE. It just seems to be human nature but it's so frustrating!!!!

[jrowley]

Im with the both of you drives me nuts when someone doesnt understand or wants to make themselves the topic of your downfall.

[dancemomof2]

I hate people who all abou them and never willing to listen. I am hear and able to listen anytime you know that.

[Dixiefireball]

I'm so sorry cindy we are here for you you got my number use it anytime you need a friend. tell me to shut up if you need too lol.

that was wrong of your sister i understand her freaking out a bit about her self but that should be between her and her doctor you needed her support for you. she should had listen better.

sending you hugs and prayers my friend
Rhonda

[SheriG]

Hi Cindy,
It sure does seem like you have alot on your plate right now. I feel very badly for how your sister responded to your needing help and comfort. :cussing: I guess some people are just so self centered that they will do anything to make it about them. So not only did she blow you off in the TLC department, but I am sure in the back of your mind, you are maybe a bit worried about her.
I don't know kiddo, "they" say that God never gives us more than we can handle...we should feel flattered that he thinks we are all wonder woman!
I guess there is nothing I can say to make it better, but just know that you have friends here who care about you and who love you. You have helped so many of us. Sit back, take a deep breath, and let us tell you that we care. You are a wonderful person, and I wish you the best of luck with this cervical problem. If you feel like it, could you please keep us up to date? Also, if you ever need to talk, vent.., email me and I will give you my phone number. Please take care! :grouphug: Love, Sheri G

[kelly McC]

I am here if you need me. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers...
Huggs,
Kelly

[creatingkarma]

Sorry that your sister did that to you. How someone could turn that around on themselves, I'll never understand. Don't forget that you are loved here.

[Sarojini]

I am so sorry your sister was not more understanding... it really stinks when family, who are supposed to love and support you, do not. It can be very depressing. But, as Karma says, please remember you are much loved here :grouphug:

[southerngirl]

Hi Brat,
I'll be keeping you in my prayers. I know you are very scared and frustrated right now. And I know it is hard but try not to worry until you know something for sure (easier said than done, I know). I send you love and hugs :grouphug: . Please feel free to pm anytime. Let us know what is going on.
Susan

[Katrina]

((((((((Cindy)))))))))))) I am so sorry...that would hurt me so much....Sending tons of support and prayers!!:pray::grouphug:


God Bless You!!!!!!!! :kiss::kiss::kiss:

[Lyn40]

That kind of feedback frustrates me to no end. I hope after she hung up the phone, in time she will give it some more thought and can come back and support you in the way you need it.

Sending hugs and support,
Lyn

[Anaphe]

Yep...that's how it is...They ask you how your doing and then launch into a monolog about thier problems. I just lie and say...oh not bad for an old broad and wait for them to run out of air.

[tigger_gal]

:biglaugh: :biglaugh: thats exactly what I did to her the other day... :biglaugh: not to mention she called to complain about her son not minding and I told her if he was mine I'd beat his butt... so far she hasn't called me, and I have called her 3 times....

(her son is a holy terror he's 15 and says you don't understand he's odd... OVER DEFIENT.. thats not a disorder, he's flat ot disrespectful and mean....
Brat