Kids grow up too fast!!!

[rhea]

:( I am so sad-and feeling old! My baby is a senior this year and just this week had his cap/gown senior portrait. I remember MY cap/gown senior portrait. He is also going to Orlando this weekend to a anime convention BY HIMSELF WITH HIS FRIENDS!! I know they have to grow up, but do they have to do it so dang fast? I know this has NOTHING to do with IC-but in a few months both my boys will be grown and outta the house-just making me sigh. Although, Corey (the baby) was cute yesterday. He had a migraine and came into my room and layed his head on my lap for me to "play with is hair" until his Imitrex kicked in. I think him being sick and all made me realize how soon he will be outta the house.

Thanks for listening.

[ICNDonna]

It's hard to see our children become adults --- at first --- but now I truly enjoy having grown up friends to enjoy. And today, I got to hug my granddaughter --- even though I had to reach up to do it! She's taller than me and a gorgeous young lady. And we have a darling little blonde hair, blue eyed, great-granddaughter who is our little angel. It's really fun seeing my step daughter being called "Grandma" --- seems like that should be MY name. :)
Donna

[rhea]

oh Donna-don't say Grandma yet-I am so not ready for that...lol. My oldest will be 20 in April so I am hoping both boys wait a few years to make me a grandma.

[VickiB]

Oh, I know what you mean! Seems like just yesterday they were playing with blocks, now my "baby" is in his fourth year at college! It's ironic that we work so hard to get them to the point where they don't need us. Only to realize they don't need us & then comes the hurt which goes with that realization!

Have to admit, I'm not ready for the Grandma word either! My daughter has given me a "grand-dog" and that's good enough for now.

Vicki

[ICNDonna]

When I first became a grandma, I got a mothers day card from one of my step-daughters addressed to "Grandma K" --- my husband picked up the mail and left the card in his pickup for several days. At the time his mother was in a care center --- and when we got in the pickup to go visit, I noticed the card sitting on the dashboard and asked him about it. He said, "Oh, that's for my mother." I had to laugh --- and remind him that Grandma K is ME! His response: "You don't look like a grandma."

Donna

[Rosalie]

I know I'm a bit late to this thread but it was only last Friday that this heartache kicked in.
My eldest is in his second year at University but I was coping OK until my daughter made her Deb. Seeing her all dressed in white and grown up, on a young mans arm didn't bother me too much either. It was after the function, as I watched her go off to the after party that it truly kicked in.
I feel so un-needed. What will I do when they are finally gone? I know that it will be a few years yet, but its coming.
I had had a career in the banking industry but all I ever really wanted to do was be a mother. It has been the most wonerful time of my life. The only time that made any sense to me and its all about to end.
This is turning into a bit of a sob story, I know, but I am having a difficult time. I find myself close to tears most of the time. My husband is of no use, if an issue isn't about money, its not relevant.
Sorry , I guess I should go to the Venting thread and have a really good blast.
Anyway, any hints on how to get throught this would be greatly appreciated.
Rosalie

[Betsie]

Dear Moms,

As Donna pointed out, you eventually replace the different stages with new ones and new joys. My youngest is a freshman in college and just drove back to end her spring break. She is out of state but nearby enough. We talk more than we ever did in high school and she spends time with us now and blows off her friends...the same people she couldn't breath without this time last year. We are literally watching her grow up, find her strengths and yes she is facing her weak stuff still. They need you more than ever right now and it becomes so womderful to be needed again...I can totally understand what Donna is saying....every stage with our children is what endears them to us and even the trying years become sacred memories...otherwise, how would we recognize the maturity and becoming new friends while still being our children.

Rosalie, being sad is such a normal part of letting go, but letting go doesn't mean loss...it means we are all moving forward and its truly okay...they never stop needing you, I promise. The tear will flow for a bit and at the strangest times, but you will find a place in their new lives!