no desire

[dbays]

I was wondering if anyone else has the problem of no desire. I have some pain but not enough to keep me from having sex. My problem is I don't seem to get aroused. Have had this problem since, ic and hysterecomy. I can't seem to get any answer from docs. I also thought the pt for pfd would help but hasn't. Just thought someone might have some ideas.

[Betsie]

Very often medication can be a big cause of this, especially anti-depressants for some people. Perhaps you can look into those and see if they are contributors.

[rhea]

I know that I have a "mental block" because I am scared that there is going to be pain afterwards. Also, with the hysterectomy your hormones may need to be checked. I know when mine are outta wack there is no "desire" there. I know this isn't really good advice, but just wanted you to know you were not alone with the problem.

[Flarin-up Vicky]

Are you in love with your partner,I mean,really in love? Are you still physically attracted to your partner? I'm saying because that is why I don't get aroused with my partner.Why am I with him then? He's my best friend and he's supporting me through these hard times.He's a wondefull guy,but in that way,it's just not there!! I haven't slept with him in a month because I don't have nooo desire whatsoever to have sex with him!! I'm not attracted to him and I'm not in love.I know I'm probably stupid right now for being not totally satisfied in my relationship but I feel I need some support from somewhere and he's the only one who is giving it and willing to help me right now!!!!

[Thoney]

Sometimes having "no desire" comes from within, especially suffering with pain. I know with me, when I am in a lot of pain or have been in alot of pain, I'm tired and just not feeling very attractive, which makes me feel like the last thing I want is to be close or have sex.

[jrowley]

I know that I have a "mental block" because I am scared that there is going to be pain afterwards. Also, with the hysterectomy your hormones may need to be checked. I know when mine are outta wack there is no "desire" there. I know this isn't really good advice, but just wanted you to know you were not alone with the problem.


I agree here some meds will cause that but more than likely your hysto has your hormones out of wack so you might want to talk with your doc about your hormone treatment.

[hazellin31]

Same thing here in the beginning. I had ZERO desire at all. It was very frustrating because it made my boyfriend feel like I didn't love him anymore. I think it was mostly because I was so nervous about the sex that I got all tense and didn't want to go through all that.

Now, I just try and relax and enjoy what is going on. I wait until I'm feeling good to attempt anything. Like if I'm in the middle of a flare, there's no way I'm letting him near me! But other times, when I don't feel as bad, then we'll attempt. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. My guy is very supportive so I know if I have to stop it will be fine. Communication is key for me --just keeping him informed makes a great difference.

Hope this helps you.

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[ICnIL]

You spend all day in the toilet and when not in the toilet you're doubled over in pain, sporting the sexiest sweat pants wal-mart makes, your best friend is a heating pad and a vicodin, your stomach makes the "PMS bloat" bow down in shame and SEX is supposed to be on the top of the "TO DO" list??????? Hmmmm