Communicating w/hubby

[jaime15]

Luckily I have a very supportive husband. I had a back incident last Thursday. So hubby went ahead on Saturday with our son's 3rd b-day party. (He even cleaned!) On Sunday he took our son to church even though I couldn't go and to a chili luncheon afterwards.

Today has been tons better where my back is concerned. But now I'm hugging the heating pad for a flare that just started. I know that usually means pms is around the corner.

He just called earlier and checked in. So now he is getting take-out for us at one of my fav restaurants.

I'm very thankful I have him and he understands IC, in a sense.
When he really wants to know exactly how I feel I say o.k. Only to be told to be honest about it. So it really is about time I have someone looking out for me. I thank God everyday for a supportive family He has provided for me. :)

I know many IC patients don't have understanding spouses......but I, along with many others are your stand-ins for compassionate support.

No one is alone in this. Big hugs to my IC friends! I hope each of you get the chance to communicate with a loved one. And, in return, have all the support in the world.
:grouphug:

[ICNJess]

Jaime,

Wow what a keeper. :) I am lucky in the same regard that I have an understanding and great husband, and my heart breaks when I read about jerk wives/husbands who just can't emotionally be there. Things haven't always been great with my husband though, and after some serious months on end of communication and compromise, we've got it down pat. I think honesty is the key, and laying it all out there. :)

Jaime--sorry about your flare. :(

Hugs,
Jess

[Betsie]

I am also one of the extra lucky ones...after 30 years, he's a keeper. Especially when I am a real PMSing witch and he shows up with something chocolate, or when he wakes me with my coffee all ready...yes I can drink my beloved coffee. Anyway, it is easy to forget and take then for granted...he is also the worlds greatest Dad...I guess I chose well. Hopefully he thinks the same!

Who says you can't marry your best friend?? I did! :)

[kelly McC]

Glad you have a wonderful supportive husband.. I also am very lucky. MY husband helps me as much as possible.Glad your back is feeling better,
Huggs,
Kelly

[liznazz]

You are all very lucky to have supportive husbands. Mine, unfortunately, after 22 years of marriage decides he wants out because my "illness" interferes with having a good time. He found himself a girlfriend a few months after my dx. We are trying to work things out for an "amicable" (is there such a thing?) divorce for our sons. Sometimes it takes an illness to see what your spouse is really like. I keep being told "it's not like cancer" & "you're not dying from it". So consider yourselves lucky! Best to you all. liz

[jaime15]

Jess, Betsie, and Kelly- I'm glad you are getting the support you deserve! Hearing this makes all the difference for some patients.

Liz-I just want to smother you with hugs. I know divorce can be difficult....and I'm so glad you're trying to remain friends. Especially for the boys.
Someday you'll get that someone special you so richly deserve!! Hugs!!

[ICNJess]

Liz,

I am so very sorry. I am at a loss for words, but like Jaime, would love to just give you a bunch of hugs right now. If you'd ever like to talk, I'm a good listener. :)

Lots of warm hugs,
Jess

[Dixiefireball]

jaime i'm so glad your husband is being so helpful so many times there is icer out there with pain with no support from there husband/wifes. I'm also one of the lucky ones well most of the time.
hubby comes home when i'm sick takes care of the kids helps them with there homework does the clothes cooks (he is starting to be a pretty good cook on the inside lol he has always been the outside cook on the grill before i.c pain).
if he knows i'm sick before he goes to work he calls and checks on me and many times left work an took me to the doctor office.
Hope you feel better soon it really helps to have someone who loves and cares enough to help.
Rhonda

[dancemomof2]

Thats great Jaime, does he have CLiff's note ready for us to purchase yet!!!! Glad your back is some better, take it easy.

[jaime15]

Well Leslie........I thought to put in my post for a nominal fee I'd clone him! :biglaugh:

But for my IC friends, it'd be free! :kissing:

You know whether a person's illness/disease is IC or whatever, everyone deserves at least one compassionate person in their life.
And I know some who don't even have the one. That's why I wanted to remind those patients they always have us who will be here for them.

[ICNJess]

((((((Jaime)))))))

You truly are an angel!

[dyno]

I am also a lucky one. My husband is very good about my IC flares when I don't feel good.