New to Sex with IC

[glowstrz]

Hi All,

At my last uro visit in late 2003 (when I was finally symptom free on elmiron), my (great) dr. asked how sex was going. At the time I didn't have a boyfriend. He told me to come back when I was ready to be intimate with someone and we could talk about it. Well here is is 2005 and I am dating a great guy. He knows I have IC, but I have not fully explained how it effects my life. Last night things got hot and heavy...I was so turned on and I guess not thinking clearly =p I let him give me oral sex...and while it felt nice, I could tell that an orgasam was not going to happen. He asked what was the matter and I said I think it was nerves. Which it could have been. I'm not sure.

I woke up this morning (and still have now...12 hours later) with after effects. Its not so much a feeling of frequency or burning. I guess I would describe it as that kind of raw feeling you might have after intercourse. But it was nothing like that. I did have to tell him to be more gentle, so the roughness might have done it. I am just curious as to why this happened from oral sex...no penetration. Is that normal? Has anyone expierenced this? It was especially suprising to me as last week I let him "finger" me and I had NO bad reaction which was amazing.

I am just trying to feel my way through a new relationship with a new disease and its not easy. Hope someone out there has some answers.

Thanks! :kissing:

[ICNJess]

Hmm one thing I can think of is, do you have Vulvodynia? Any stimulation down there can cause some irritated feeling afterwards. Check this site out http://www.nva.org

It will tell you all about Vulvodynia and maybe it'll help answer some questions. I myself have Vulvar Vestibulitis, and can relate to sensitivity.

Hugs,
Jess

[NonnyJ]

Intercourse has been tough for my husband and I, but when I was looking around on the ICN shop I found Very Private Intimate Moisture. It works great. Before then it hurt pretty bad, but now it feels very good.