When mom's are hurting..

[jaime15]

What do you do, as mothers, when you are flaring? It has been 2 days for me. I can't even figure out what I've done. I'm pretty sure it isn't an infection.

For the life of me, I wish it would end. Luckily hubby has cleaned and there isn't a thing I need to do. Because I've been cuddled up with my heating pad.

I feel bad for my son that we aren't outside playing while the rain has stopped. But we are reading books and his tractor's are "plowing" my green heating pad since it is "grass".

So I'll keep drinking my water and wait for the IBS flare to start soon. When one starts the other does........it happens every time..... :rolleyes:

Fluffy hugs are greatly appreciated...........

[Alexa]

Oh Jaime -- tons and tons of hugs to you :grouphug: :grouphug:

I know what you mean about the IBS and IC going hand in hand - if one thing is out of whack down there, it certainly affects everything!!

Your hubby sounds like a gem and so you just need to concentrate on taking care of YOU! I really hope you're feeling better soon!!

:kiss:

[ICNDonna]

Sounds like your son is having an enjoyable day with you. I encourage you to take it easy and just enjoy this private, quiet time with him.

Sending gentle hugs,
Donna

[ICNJess]

Big fluffy hugs coming your way!!! I really hope you feel better soon--I know what you mean about one flaring and the other begins...ugh...stick close to your heating pad...and your bathroom!! Big hugs!!!

Love,
Jess

[Julie B]

I am sorry you are so sick.......God bless your husband for just picking up the slack....someday you will do it for him, I am sure. As for your son.......... you ARE being a good mom.......time together is the best........being available doesn't necessarily mean playing tag or bikes or playing ball......I try to think.....somewhere out there is a mom who is a paraplegic or blind or deaf........their children love them just the same.....

To be honest? For the most part, I think kids of ICers grow up to be compassionate and understanding adults.........Mine sure have come a long way since before I was sick.....(18, 20, 23 now) That is a gift to the rest of the world......

XOXOX

[Betsie]

Jaime,

This Mom was fortunate in that my dx came when my kids were much older...though I still felt badly. Now when I flare, which isnt often, I do just what you are doing. 'comfy" works.

As for your son? I agree with the others, he sounds fine, he is with you and safe...sometimes not filling all the gaps for our kids helps them learn to entertain themselves. My kids have grown up with my migraines and learned very early when I hit the couch, I needed the to have quiet time, just very near to me. It was fine and so are they. :)

So, stay put and pull out all your flare tricks...Club UTI is open again, ou might want to check in there for a day or so....lots of little kids in the playroom and "sharing/caring" IC Moms to pinch hit.... :) Feel well soon.

[JenG]

:grouphug: :grouphug: Lots of hugs! I know what you are going through. I have two kids, 8 and 11, and sometimes I feel like I am heaping a lot on their little shoulders. Then, other times I try to remember that all the extra responsabilities they have around the house will help to build them into better, more responsable adults with life skills.
I do still try to do as much as I can for them when I feel well. But today I am lying in bed with a bad flare, a bad cold and an ear infection. While I was typing this my 11 year old daughter walked into my room and kissed me on the cheek as she was taking a basket of clothes to put away! :woohoo:
It's times like these I really appreciate having them around and not worrying about what hard work it is being a mom and not being in the best health.
Hang in there, us moms have to stick together!
:) Jenny

[kelly McC]

((((hugggsss))))
Hope your feeling better soon.

[SharonA]

Jamie...You know that I think you are very special and I believe that boy of yours will be fine. How can he not be...he has you for a mom.

Rest well and enjoy the quiet time with him. He will remember only that his Mommy let him turn her into a field to be plowed even though she felt less than okay.

Tell that hubby of yours--->"job well done" for being a caring husband and a good role model for his son.

Here come those fluffy hugs you asked for ((((((Hugs)))))) along with a few soft :kissing:.

[Sherry5]

Jamie- You are a better mom then I am! I just get super cranky when I hurt and want my kids to just leave me alone. They are 7,6 and 3 and they tend to get super whiny and demanding when I am sick. Two of them lack empathy in all forms. They don't care how bad I hurt, they want apple juice NOW! My six year old is sweet though. I think when they grow up they will only remember how cranky mom got.

How did you train your kids to be helpful while you are down?

[Dixiefireball]

oh hon i know how you feel :( i'm sorry you are feeling so bad.
what i do on these bad days is let each child pick a v.h.s movie. I will let them play the playstation two or we will take truns reading to each other.
most of the time my two oldest 11 Courtney 12 Brandon keeps alex age 6 happy and plays with him too. They no there not going outside when mommy is sick until daddy gets home from work!
Hope you feel better very soon. I agree with donna enjoy your private time with your son.
Rhonda

[andcohen]

Big Hugs Jamie ((((((HUGS))))))) Hope you are feeling better soon.
Andrea

[free2bme]

Just take a deep breath and remember that there were good days behind you so there surely will be good days ahead also.

Today was not a good day for me either. I ended up in bed but an hour or so ago all the pain decided it was done bothering me so I got up. And now I can be here to encourage YOU!

Call your husband and kids in to tell them how much they mean to you and how you appreciate all their help and understanding. These trials that we go through truly make our families stronger when we communicate and stick together.

blessings and best wishes for a restful night and a better tomorrow

[vm]

Hey, sweetie... :kissing: I just saw this. I hope your flare ends soon, too. :( Sounds like you are finding some creative ways to entertain the little guy while you aren't feeling up to par. It is hard when you don't feel good and have a little one to keep up with and care for.

Hoping for a SPEEDY recovery for you!!!!!! :)

[jaime15]

Thanks so much for lifting me up!
Hubby even dressed and took our son to church this morning.....this is usually our Sunday thing.....but I knew I couldn't ride the 30 minute drive........let alone sit on a pew for a hour or more.........

So when he got home.....I thanked him for being such a good helper yesterday and today........he asked, "What did I do?"........I replied that he jumped in picking things up when I couldn't.........AND we had two different couples last night stop by for an unexpected visit.....I survived......love to you guys!!!

SHERRY5- I didn't train my son. Ask any of the icer's who have ever talked with me on the phone.......he is always talking loudly or doing anything to get my attention since at that time I'm not 100% focused on him....... ;)
He was just a good boy yesterday........and I have to say.........he is most times when I feel like poo. It sure is easy to get cranky when you don't feel good.....you have your hands full with 3........crankiness and all enjoy it.....we only have little ones for so long........ :)

[Babs RN]

Jamie,
Can you bottle some of your dh up and send it to Iraq? He sounds awesome. Fluffy hugs and I hope you are well.

Hugs,
Barb :grouphug: