Please HELP!

[janelle77362]

Hello everyone.... I am in desperate need of help and support. :help:

I had a very difficult birth with my first child. After over 50 hours of labor I had a c-section after which I began having several difficulties. I started running a fever of 104, my blood pressure dropped significantly, and my incesion was not healing at all. I spent about a week and a half in the hospital and it was another two weeks before I could even walk again. I am lucky to have made it through but I feel as though these complications may have led to my IC.
Anyhow my problem is that I am very scared that I may not make it this time or that I will have an even longer recovery. Just the thought of it brings me to tears and makes me dread the thought of labor. I am having a planned c-section this time so I keep telling myself I won't have these types of problems. Even so I am becoming terribly depressed because I am so afraid of leaving my daughter and new baby. Does anybody have any suggestions for how I can ease my mind? I really want to move past this and be joyful about my new baby.
Janelle

[ICNDonna]

Have you talked to your doctor about your fears? Fifty hours of labor is a horrendously long time. It should be much easier for you to have a scheduled section without the strain and physical exhaustion of a lengthy labor.

Sending encouraging hugs,
Donna

[Katrina]

I agree with Donna that you talk to your doctor about your fears and why you have them. I also think that journaling them at a time like this may be a good idea since stress is very hard on your baby and it is even harder if you don't release it. Which is why I highly praise you for posting here!!!!! I wish you and your child's birth well!!!!!!!

[jaime15]

Having a plan in place should help calm your fears some. I think that "unforeseen" problem could be your culprit. But remember having difficulties with the first baby doesn't mean it will be the same this time.
Your fears are common with everyone who is pregnant.
I know that I tried very hard not to think about delivery.
I think those that said above to talk with your ob is wise.
If you're having many fears and it's stressing you out, you don't want that to get unhealthy for you or your child.
Keep us updated as much as you can......it's always great for other patients to hear baby stories......and I'm sure you'll have a great one this time around. :kissing:

[Cricketmk3]

Janelle, Are you using the same doctor this time as the first time? I agree that 50 hours is much too long to labor and probably contributed to your problems after the c-section because you were exhausted. I understand your anxiety because we always think of the worst scenarios when we have labor or surgery in our futures. Your attitude will mean a lot. Start thinking positively and don't worry so much. If you are religious, agree to let God take control. Best of luck!

[BrendaS]

Just remember that every pregnancy as well as every delivery is different. I just had my third baby, but it was my first pregnancy with IC. While my IC was terrible during my pregnancy, I had the easiest labor and delivery of all three. So don't set yourself up for problems that you may not even have. Best wishes!

Brenda

[janelle77362]

Hello All,
I just wanted to thank everyone for their kind posts. I discussed my fears with my doctor and she was able to make me feel very comfortable about having this baby. If she hadn't I probably would have found a new ob/gyn. Now I am just looking forward to seeing the new bundle of joy!
:D Janelle