seriously need help

[kim mondro]

hey all,
i havent been on in a while because i was in remission but now its back. i jsut got out of the navy with a medical discharge and was happy thinking i would be compensated nope. i recieved a severence check and then see ya later.i will be getting some help from the v.a. though. anyways the main reason im writing is i really need help and dont know what to do. i was already diagnosed with depression and am already taking antidepressants but im feeling more depressed now then i ever have when i should be happy that i dont have to deal with the navy anymore. i ended up moving back with my parents in orange county ca from el centro ca . i was living with my b-friend of about 1 and a 1/2 years. he's still in the navy so he cant come and live with me and i miss him terribly. ive only been away from him no more than 4 days at a time and he's in texas visiting family and treating me like **** which is pissing me off. not to mention my mood swings i get from the depo lupron im on for endometriosis. i also have no job no medical insurance and no dental. oh and did i mention im flaring worse than ever oh and my ibs is working into overdrive. i have no friends now that i moved back home the ones i considered friends keep flaking on me and the others have moved away or are married and have kids. i mean im only21 i should be living it up and partying and having all kinds of friends but i just feel like an old made and more lonely then ever. i dont know what to do. i guess i just need someone to talk to who understands me and can be there for me thats why im writing this and hopefully getting this off of my chest will make me feel better. thanks for listening.
kim

[vm]

I hope venting about it a bit helped. :kissing: Sounds like you have had quite a few stressors - leaving the Navy, moving back home, being away from your boyfriend, being away from the friends you had while in the Navy, and a flare to go with it all. Any ONE of those things would be tough to deal with --- but all together would stress anyone out. :(

Keep talking to people, take care of you and that bladder and in time it will pass. Have you told your prescribing doctor that you are feeling really depressed despite the antidepressant? I would let him or her know - maybe it needs to be adjusted while you transition through all these changes.

I hope you feel better soon. {{HUGS}}

[AmandaRN]

Sorry to hear you are feeling so depressed. I know it is always different to return home after living somewhere else. All of your old friends are gone or are different. As fdor your boyfriend, men have a tendancy to be s$#%s on occassion and hopefully he'll get over it. You need to take care of you right now. You need to see your doctor and discuss the increased depression, you may need to increase your med or change it. Please take care of yourself. Take it day by day. Good luck to you.

[ICNDonna]

I have to agree with the others who responded. I suggest you talk to your doctor about how you are feeling. You have had to make many, many changes in your life in a short period --- even a healthy person would have a problem with that. Hopefully your boy friend will come around. If he doesn't, at least you know so you can move forward.

Sending warm encouraging hugs,
Donna

[ICLori]

I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. You've been through a lot of changes, and it's normal to feel sad with all of that on your plate. You've been through a very hard time, and you are feeling awful physically. Just be gentle with yourself, rest lots, and I agree with everyone to talk to your doctor and see if there is anything else that can be done.

Blessings,
Lori

[ICNJess]

Hi Kim,

I'm 22 and know how you feel having IC this young. If you'd ever like to chat, drop me a PM sometime.

I hope you feel better soon... :)

[kelly McC]

((((Kim))),
Hope things get better for you.
Kelly

[Dixiefireball]

i do agree with the others please talk to your doctor about your depression he may need to change your medicine.

[July]

:angel: Hi Kim,
I'll keep you in my prayers

[Katrina]

:hi:Kim, I agree with Donna that even a healthy person would have difficulty with all the changes you have had to deal with. And the problems of having IC when you are young I know real well. I have this "help" if you will of having people that have known me my whole life actually understand that I am sick because of the health problems I had as a kid, but even that doesn't keep me from wanting the life of a healthy person. It takes time to adjust and work around the problems ...even after doing so their will still be moments where it really hurts. Anyway, I so hope that things improve for you and you are helped from posting and the replies. :grouphug:

[heybrej]

Hey Kim,
I am 19 and know how hard it is to be a young, normal, active person- and then boom, you feel like you are an old maid. I can't imagine being in the Navy with IC and IBS. I think that right now, you need to focus on yourself, and be around the people that love you most. I have been struggling lately not with my IC, but with my lack of a sex life (I guess that also comes down to my IC). It is this issue that makes me feel so not normal. It just feels so unfair....why cant I be like other people my age? Why cant I go out to a club and drink? Why cant I be on my feet all day like I used to? How come I have lost all interest in being intimate? WHY ME??

I just want you to know that I am here for you. It's so hard to be a "normal" young person when you have these conditions. It's hard, but we are strong, wonderful women, and we can get though anything if we put our minds to it.