icnmgrjill
11-11-2004, 12:01 PM
My nephew was in a car accident last night. Scared the living heck out of everyone. He was delivering pizza's when he was broadsided on the drivers side door. Luckily, he was driving the ranch truck which protected him... though it was totalled. This after an accident last week when four teenagers from my high school were speeding in the evening and hit two trees. Two bright, young lives were extinguished while on the way to a coffee house simply because one driver chose to "go fast." He's okay... but it's still a heart rending moment when you hear those words "car accident."
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I have a number of mottos that I use running the IC Network
#1 - Practice forgiveness on a daily basis... for patients in pain can often say, or hear, something that wasn't intended.
#2 - Perfection is not an option.
#3 - You don't have to do this alone. Find someone to talk with when you're feeling alone and tried.
Well, it's the third one that I'm writing about. Last night, I received a wonderful gift.... a heart to heart discussion with my 82 year old father where I just poured out my heart. You know what I mean... the classic "I'm working so hard... I have no life.... I can't do another thing" sing song.
He, in his wise, sage way, told me "You've got Osborne Syndrome." "What's that?" I asked. He responded "You're afraid to spend money... even if you know you need to do it." You know, he was right??
Having IC and running the ICN has made me parsimonious. My first goal was to set aside enough money to keep the ICN alive for a year if we lost our funders. Did that. My second goal was to make the ICN independent. Did that with our mail order business, which is now thriving.
My goal now is to help build careers for other patients who want to work. We have several part time staff... but I'd like to have more help! There's so much more to do these days!!
So, getting back to my da, he was just "listened" as I poured my heart out... and then offered gentle, soothing, and encouraging words that have helped me walk in today with new energy and hope.
Sometimes I don't follow my own advice. I hold it in :ignore:.... let the stress build :headbang: .... and feel like I'm all alone when right there, just across the kitchen table, is someone who wants to help if just given the chance. It reminded me, yet again, that I don't have to be perfect, that I should forgive myself for being human and that I can, and should, ask for help whenever I need it. :help:
That's the news from the ICN office, where the skies are filled with billowing thunderheads and golden leaves are dancing across the streets and sidewalks in a breeze soft and chill.
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I have a number of mottos that I use running the IC Network
#1 - Practice forgiveness on a daily basis... for patients in pain can often say, or hear, something that wasn't intended.
#2 - Perfection is not an option.
#3 - You don't have to do this alone. Find someone to talk with when you're feeling alone and tried.
Well, it's the third one that I'm writing about. Last night, I received a wonderful gift.... a heart to heart discussion with my 82 year old father where I just poured out my heart. You know what I mean... the classic "I'm working so hard... I have no life.... I can't do another thing" sing song.
He, in his wise, sage way, told me "You've got Osborne Syndrome." "What's that?" I asked. He responded "You're afraid to spend money... even if you know you need to do it." You know, he was right??
Having IC and running the ICN has made me parsimonious. My first goal was to set aside enough money to keep the ICN alive for a year if we lost our funders. Did that. My second goal was to make the ICN independent. Did that with our mail order business, which is now thriving.
My goal now is to help build careers for other patients who want to work. We have several part time staff... but I'd like to have more help! There's so much more to do these days!!
So, getting back to my da, he was just "listened" as I poured my heart out... and then offered gentle, soothing, and encouraging words that have helped me walk in today with new energy and hope.
Sometimes I don't follow my own advice. I hold it in :ignore:.... let the stress build :headbang: .... and feel like I'm all alone when right there, just across the kitchen table, is someone who wants to help if just given the chance. It reminded me, yet again, that I don't have to be perfect, that I should forgive myself for being human and that I can, and should, ask for help whenever I need it. :help:
That's the news from the ICN office, where the skies are filled with billowing thunderheads and golden leaves are dancing across the streets and sidewalks in a breeze soft and chill.