I really miss my Mom

[ICLori]

It's been two years (last Sunday was the anniversary of her death) since my Mom passed on and I still miss her so much. I feel really lost without her and very alone. I'm surprised that I could feel this much grief, two years after she's passed on. I thought I would deal with the loss better than this but I'm not, I'm still sad about it.

I know part of the problem is, I need to be on antidepressants, but I can't tolerate them right now because of my bladder so I'm not on them :( So that's part of why I'm not dealing with loss very well right now etc.

Just wanted to vent a little, thanks for letting me post.

Blessings, Lori

[Babs RN]

Lori,
I am so sorry about your Mom's passing. You have every right to continue to grieve her loss. You have been an angel to me in recent weeks, I am there for you too.

Hugs,
Barb

[dyno]

Lori,
I am sorry you are having a tough time. I can tell you from experience, I have lost my dad, sister and brother, it is especially hard around the anniversary times. I would never have believed it had I not went through it. Hang in there, it does get a little easier as time goes by but you will always miss them.

[Dixiefireball]

Lori dear i know how you feel all to well my mother passed away in 88 due to cancer and hon it does get some easier but the pain will always be there! to lose a parnet or a child is the most painful thing i think anyone can go threw. if you need to talk hon please p.m me i understand and will be here for you.
the hardest time for me is Christmas my mother passed Dec 18 and her birthday Jan 6 mothers day and my birthday.
sending you hugs and prayers Rhonda

[jen_dahling]

Hugs to you, Lori.

[ICLori]

Thank you all so much! I think that I just kind of have to give myself permission to grieve. It's just one of those things...thank you all so much for being here for me.

I know that we all lose loved ones, but we will all be reunited one day with them too.

Blessings, Lori

[SharonA]

Lori...There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. There is no time limit on how long or how short you grieve. There is just grief. It is a very personal thing. Missing one's parents when they pass is normal.

Both of my parents are gone and I miss them and think about them alot. They will come to mind at odd times. Like when I smell Apple Pie cooking. My mom made the best Apple Pie I have ever eaten. I used to ask for one as a Christmas gift from her. Like when my husband throws one of his flannel shirts over the back of a chair. My dad wore one almost all the time outdoors when the weather turned cool and did the exact same thing with them when he came indoors. I always knew that was one gift I could give him for Christmas that he would love and use.

Because of our memories of our loved ones who have passed, they will always be a part of us. I treasure the memories because I never want to forget what these people meant to me.

Honey...wrap yourself up in your memories of your mom like an old, comfortable quilt. Allow her to love you and allow yourself to love her, again. Now and for always. :kissing:

[XoChelsey03Xo]

I'm sorry about your mom. Eveyone grives on their own terms. I know that if it was my mom I would feel the same way. You and your mother must of been very close. Just remember, you'll see her again one day. Chelsey

[ICLori]

Thank you all again so much. I look forward so much to seeing her once again.

I actually have an afghan she knitted for me, I love it - wrap up in it all the time and think of her....

I am so lucky to have had her as my Mom...

Blessings, Lori

[Iris]

Hi Lori, I know the feeling really well, I lost my mum in 1992, and I still miss her a lot. She used to spend a lot of Christmas holidays with us, and the memory of the good times we had together, are so special to me. Your mum will always be with you in your heart, and the wonderful memories I am sure you have of her. Take care and hugs, Iris. :grouphug:

[Katrina]

I would probably be just like you Lori...expecting myself to be stronger and all that.....you are very wise. I am very very very sorry for your loss!

[Teri]

{{{{{Lori}}}}} There is no time limit on grief. It's the most personal thing that we do in our lives. There is NO ONE who know's what's going on inside of you. There is no one who should be tilling you that you should be over it by now. My mother died in Oct 1994 and I didn't even start grieving her until she had been dead for 10 years and then it hit me HARD.

I lost my sister to Melanoma on June 6 of this year and I can be in the middle of a store, thinking I'm doing alright and the next minute I'm running to my car and sobbing. I never know when or how it's going to hit. I lost my best, most perfect friend in the world almost 5 years ago and there are still times that I pick up the phone and start to dial her.

Be kind to yourself Lori.....and if you don't have people around you who can be supportive, or just listen when you need to talk, than you need to take an inventory as to what purpose they are really playing in your life.

sending you tons and tongs of gentle hugs~

[Jmeisnor]

To all of you (us) who have lost someone special:
My mother passed 12 years ago. I miss her a lot when I feel really sick. I had a rough IC weekend, more than my usual 24/7 pain, and I just wanted to share that with you all. I really miss her. I'm sorry for us all to have this IC, and thankful to have these postings to help us with so many things...not just the physical pain of IC.
My mother sends me butterflies sometimes.
Take care,
Jan

[ICLori]

Thank you all so much for these beautiful replies! I can see that so many of us are grieving but getting through each day just the same. How wonderful our reunions will be with our loved ones, when the time comes! :)

Blessings, Lori

[dancemomof2]

I can't even imagine life without my mom right now, she is so helpful with my kids all the time, especially when the bladder is nuts and I am unable to deal with the baby because of it. I just can't imagine how you feel. Hugs

[Sarojini]

There is not much I can add to all of these wonderful replies, so I'm just going to send you a :grouphug: and a :kissing:

I am so sorry for your loss.

[tigger_gal]

((((((((((hugs Lori))))))))))))))
Brat