Love or loneliness?

[arcticfox]

I don't know what my heart is telling me! I am very confused.
I just talked with ex last night, because he is struggling with some issues that are affecting him and he can't seem to make a decision on what to do. It seems he just keeps running away. I really worry about him and hope that he is okay. So I call to check on him. Sounds like I am acting like his mother, which he does not need! But that is not the problem. The problem is last night he told me he missed me and that he still loved me.

I am so torn because I am lonely and I do miss him. But I do not miss all the stuff that bothered me all last year when I was living with him. Ya know?

There are a few gals at work that seem to think that they can't see us apart for very long and that we should be together. And I keep thinking that it's true. But the other part of me says no. I know that we are not right for each other. I am a northern girl at heart and he is not. I need someone to be strong and make decisive decisions and not be wishy washy, ya know?
That's what he does, he doesn't make firm decisions. I can't stand that.

So all day I was thinking "Do I love him still or am I just lonely?" My heart won't give me an answer I can be ok with.

I am just lonely and confused. God help me to get through this.

:pray:


Lynn

[Katrina]

:grouphug: :grouphug: Lynn, I am very sorry you are going through. I have a feeling you know what your heart is telling you. I can't be sure what that is (I am not you) but the feeling I am getting from you is that although you do care about him....you know that the relationship you had together isn't what you want. My thoughts are if your unsure than the relationship isn't right. Maybe a day will come when the two of you will actually mesh well......but it doesn't sound like it has come...or am I wrong?

If I can help anymore let me know ok?

:kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss:

[andcohen]

Lynn,
I think what Katrina is saying is right. I also think the fact that you are asking yourself all these questions is telling you something deep down. I know it's hard when you do care & love someone but mabey your not in love? there is a big difference. I totaly understand what you are saying about needing someone to be strong & make the decisions & say what they want instead of huming & haring about what to do. My husband is shocking at that, It's like just do it! don't sit around for a week thinking about it. It would be nice if they could just make the choice for us once in awhile. (But then he says that what ever choice he makes I won't agree with anyway & he's right- Poor thing :bonk: )
Anyway think long & hard about everything, I guess there's no need to rush such an important decission. I'm sure it will all work out in the end.
Good luck.
Andrea :flower:

[dancemomof2]

I also seem to agree, it sounds like your heart is telling you what to do. Please don't do something you will regret later, just because he feels he still loves you now. It could only be his loniness talking to a good listener.

[ICNJess]

I agree too. Sometimes it's hard to face what your heart is telling you, when your brain is saying something different. Good luck, whatever you do, make sure YOU are happy.