Talking to Mom who has IC too

[tigger_gal]

I called my mom and was telling her that I was in a lot of pain :help: , and frustrated with it all... I told her, I don't go any where, (she knows all this already) I don't want to do things, I just want to stay home :shake: .... I told her I had went to the doctors, and was telling him how much pain I was in and being sad all the time bla bla bla, and I told my mom he put me on antidepressants... She about hit the roof.. :ignore: .. why on earth did he put you on those, your not depressed.. :dizzy: .. Those things can make you sucidal. :headbang: ... well at one point in every ones life I am sure they have had the thought cross there mind... and if I got there I'd stop taking the medication. (elavil did that to me, and I was mean.. so I stopped them) besides, I have to much to live for, I'd never be so stupid. I think I did the right thing to go to my doctor, now my mom is making me feel bad about it all. Anyway, I just gave up :shake: , and changed the subject, with her having IC I thought she'd understand, apparently I was wrong..... Why do I bother to try to talk to anyone... :rolleyes: .... no one understands whats going on with me, except me! I can't talk to my husband... we won't even go there on this one....
Brat

[ICLori]

Hi, sweetie - oh how frustrating! Here you are just trying to take care of yourself, do the right thing, and your Mom acts like you are taking poison. Grrr!

It's true that there have been some suicides that have occured while people have been on antidepressants. Especially among teenagers I have heard. But I have read that doctors don't think it was the antidepressants, but rather the underlying illness of depression that caused this.

I think if we could look at the statistics, we'd see that many more people are helped by most medicines, rather than harmed.

I have a father who thinks all medicine is poision, too, but he'd be willing in a heartbeat to take prostate cancer herbal medicine that was in the news lately for killing people...sigh...

Public opinion likes to swing back and forth sometimes I think. Sometimes docs are gods and medicine is the answer to all problems, and sometimes we think docs are evil and all medicine is bad but herbal stuff (natural stuff) which is really the same thing as medicine anyway, is good.

I feel bad for you. You did the right thing - depression comes with this disease, with any untreated pain really - anytime a person is in pain, you can expect them to be depressed to one level or another. That's what a doctor told me once anyways. So you were just trying your best to cope with this disease and to remain functional - and you get yelled at for that! And the worst part is, there isn't any point trying to defend your position, because people get their minds made up and they won't budge for all the world.

I'm here if you ever want to PM me or anything. I'm sorry you are going through this. Sometimes our loved ones can frustrate us.

Blessings, Lori

[Katrina]

:grouphug:Talking to mothers ....boy have I had difficulty with that too. My mother knows I am very sick but sometimes her opinions on pain meds or other treatments make the worse feelings ever come out of me. ((((((((((hugs))))))))) With all that my mother has seen me go through I would think she would understand too....but it just isn't always so. My mother at one point asked my husband to take my meds from me....(not because I was abusing them but because she didn't like the affect they had on me). Mothers...grr. :kiss::kiss:

[kelly McC]

I must say the two people who are hardest for me to talk about this are my mom and my boss. My mom just drives me nuts with things like well you looked great yesterday or how come you never feel good. Grrrrrr My boss on the other hand is just mean and a Monster. (lol) The girls @ work have been talking and saying they felt bad for me and did not how I can still work and my boss says to them well what she has is nothing short of a infection and her doctors are not treated her with the right meds. What a loop... she is. Anyway if you ever wanna chat I am here. Give me a shout...
many huggs,
Kelly

[creatingkarma]

Brat,

Hey girl! Boy, everyone seems to have an opinion on what's really wrong with us & what we should & shouldn't do about it. I don't care if it's how to treat your disease or how to raise your kids or how to fart. God gave us this little thing called freewill. That means that the decisions in your life are yours to make. I'm glad that your mom doesn't need anti-d's, but if you do then she should accept that & be thankful that you are getting help. I don't buy the drugs causing suicide. I mean, if someone is on anti's then they were obviously depressed to begin with & the anti's obviously didn't help them or maybe they did it before the drugs even took effect? I don't know. Only you & God know what is best for you. Take Care, Karma